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Please help me! Is being too nice a good reason to reject someone? [I Need Advice]

I’m a very nice, sweet, good girl. I am sort of a goody two shoes, I tend to have expectations of people being nice and respect me (failed).
He flat out told me that I’m nice, but I’m way too nice. I talked to him earlier tonight and he seemed bored. He says he frankly finds me too agreeable, and also I make him do all the work by planning the day (virtual). He says I’m way too easy and easy is boring. He said, “You’re okay but you’re too nice. You always bug people to “be nice”, you agree with everything people say....sometimes, you don’t even stand up for yourself or have you own opinion. It’s okay to have an OPINION. I wish I didn’t have to drag it out of you. QUIT AGREEING WITH ME! You keep telling people that you’re nice which is creepy. Also you’re not being honest with yourself. You gotta push back a little! I like a girl that’s sweet but also challenges me. I like feisty, strong girls that aren’t afraid to be themselves and speak their minds and to put it bluntly, I can’t see myself with someone like you. No Layla. Besides I see you only as a friend anyways. Frankly I like your best friend because she’s confident, feisty, sassy and being herself, but she has a boyfriend. Plus she’s short.”
See that’s it right there! He likes shirt girls and he’s 6’5 or 6.
I was told I’m too passive aggressive.
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Casheyane · F
Okay girl. First, scratch that thought. He has the guts to tell you he likes your best friend. So don't waste your time on him.

But he said something you should think about. By being the way you are now (whatever name you have for it), are you happy? Because if you're only living your life to please people then you're giving up the chance to discover what you could be. What you are meant to be.

So think it. Ponder on it. And become her. She might just surprise you and change your life for the better.

You don't have to be like anyone else. You just have to be the best version of you.
@Casheyane nicely put 👍