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Please help me! Is being too nice a good reason to reject someone? [I Need Advice]

I’m a very nice, sweet, good girl. I am sort of a goody two shoes, I tend to have expectations of people being nice and respect me (failed).
He flat out told me that I’m nice, but I’m way too nice. I talked to him earlier tonight and he seemed bored. He says he frankly finds me too agreeable, and also I make him do all the work by planning the day (virtual). He says I’m way too easy and easy is boring. He said, “You’re okay but you’re too nice. You always bug people to “be nice”, you agree with everything people say....sometimes, you don’t even stand up for yourself or have you own opinion. It’s okay to have an OPINION. I wish I didn’t have to drag it out of you. QUIT AGREEING WITH ME! You keep telling people that you’re nice which is creepy. Also you’re not being honest with yourself. You gotta push back a little! I like a girl that’s sweet but also challenges me. I like feisty, strong girls that aren’t afraid to be themselves and speak their minds and to put it bluntly, I can’t see myself with someone like you. No Layla. Besides I see you only as a friend anyways. Frankly I like your best friend because she’s confident, feisty, sassy and being herself, but she has a boyfriend. Plus she’s short.”
See that’s it right there! He likes shirt girls and he’s 6’5 or 6.
I was told I’m too passive aggressive.
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SW-User
What he said is true. Perhaps he was an ass in the manner he expressed it i dont know but people usually want to enjoy YOU for you and who you truly are. Being too agreeable and not standing up for yourself can be a bit of a turn off for a lot of people.


The part about him liking your best friend more is just a dick move but and develop your own opinions and passions that you may share with those around you. By the way theres nothing wrong with nice.
AutismGirl18 · 18-21, F
@SW-User I just don’t wanna upset anyone
SW-User
@AutismGirl18 Look at it this way. Why are you more concerned about not upsetting people who aren't all too concerned about upsetting you? At any rate its nit about upsetting anyone, it's about being your true self, and if anyone is angered by that, then perhaps you should distance yourself from those individuals. Dont bother with people that want to limit you. 😉
@AutismGirl18 if you don't want upset any one, and spend ypur life being pushed and pulled in every direction other people want.... Do you know what happens?..... There's nothing of you left. You end up being the fringe on someone else's life.

Do you want that?
Dp you eternally want to see yourself only through another's eyes?

And what happens if they leave your life, the life you centred around them?

?
SW-User
@OogieBoogie Very well put.
SW-User
@AutismGirl18 Just want to add that I get that it maybe scary at first to try and assert yourself. It gets uncomfortable at times even for people that are comfortable in their own skin. Its ok to be scared, just try not to be crippled by it. Be afraid and do what you need to do anyway. Take care.
AutismGirl18 · 18-21, F
@SW-User Yeah fine but I don’t want to start a conflict but I’m not afraid of it. My dads told me to stop worrying about being nice and start standing up for my goddamn self. Nobody is going to stand up for you. You need to do it for yourself. Why do you think we don’t say anything when someone criticizes you? We want to see if you would speak up for yourself. Sometimes you gotta be an asshole or the bad guy to protect yourself.
AutismGirl18 · 18-21, F