I Need Advice

Hi!
I just opened up a bit too much to the guy i've been into for the past month. After he got busy I started to feel the craving to be with him. And told him I needed a bit more attention. Then he made sure I knew that he's not looking for a relationship, he's happy to only focus on himself.

I had been thinking about what the situation was with us, and had been hoping that this wasn't it.

I need guys advice here. It's been really positive, fun and sexy for the times we've met. But him saying this, does it mean he'll never change his mind about committing.

Been trying to stay very cool, but I don't think I can be with someone when feelings aren't eaqual. I don't know him well enough yet, but I do like him.

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DunningKruger · 61-69, M

Could he change his mind? Sure. Will he change his mind? Well, why would he?

Seriously. What are you doing to try to get him to view you in the way you want him to?

There's no guarantee that anything you ever do will be enough, and the simplest solution is to say, well, he's just not into you, so the best thing to do is to rip off the Band-Aid, say it's been swell and find someone else.

Throughobstacles · 26-30, F

@DunningKruger thanks. I get unsure because for me, when I start to realize I don't like a guy, I tell him and can't have sex with him.

I got into this trap once before. But that was the first time I was with a guy who didn't adore me. And I thought it was fine that we weren't in love because we enjoyed eachothers company. But he ended up cutting me out for someone who wouldn't allow us to remain friends.

This is why it's important for me to know he wants me exclusively. I don't want to get cut out again.