I Need Advice
I need someone that can relate to. Being abandoned by your own parents hurts so bad. I'm motherless because my mother abandoned us when I was 8. I'm 17 going on 18.
22-25, F
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rckt148 · 61-69, M
My Mom was a cheater ,Dad worked at night
We had a sitter but she got my 18 month old brother burned so bad he spent 2 months in a Nic Unit
So at 7 I was left to raise myself and 2 brothers
It was the same as having no parents except Dad paid the bills and Mom did shop and keep food in the house ,
but other then that ,I raised myself
We had a sitter but she got my 18 month old brother burned so bad he spent 2 months in a Nic Unit
So at 7 I was left to raise myself and 2 brothers
It was the same as having no parents except Dad paid the bills and Mom did shop and keep food in the house ,
but other then that ,I raised myself
rckt148 · 61-69, M
@SomeMichGuy It would have been OK with me had she not come home to write new lists of things I had to have done
and beat me for things that wouldn't fool Dad that she was there and this was things she was suppose to have done
The Garth song "Momma's in the graveyard ,Daddys in the pen"
my brothers and I used to laugh and say it was written about us ,,except Dad worked at the space center ,he wasn't a truck driver
One good thing come of it .I was ready to run my own home at 13 ,,I was almost 14
I was telling one of my brothers to do something ,they only listened to me ,
and Dad yells "this is my home ,the day you think you can run your own GET OUT this one is mine "
I had already talked to an older friend who had a house about renting a room ,,she said sure
I asked Grandpa for a job ,he hired me
I was out of there
I passed the Naval Battery test to join the Coast Guard at 16 ,I was put on the delayed enlistment program
They signed for me to marry my girl friend (I was still 16)
2 weeks after I turned 17 I was in boot camp
I have only been back to help them ,after Dad broke his back and to take care of them when they were dying
True story
and beat me for things that wouldn't fool Dad that she was there and this was things she was suppose to have done
The Garth song "Momma's in the graveyard ,Daddys in the pen"
my brothers and I used to laugh and say it was written about us ,,except Dad worked at the space center ,he wasn't a truck driver
One good thing come of it .I was ready to run my own home at 13 ,,I was almost 14
I was telling one of my brothers to do something ,they only listened to me ,
and Dad yells "this is my home ,the day you think you can run your own GET OUT this one is mine "
I had already talked to an older friend who had a house about renting a room ,,she said sure
I asked Grandpa for a job ,he hired me
I was out of there
I passed the Naval Battery test to join the Coast Guard at 16 ,I was put on the delayed enlistment program
They signed for me to marry my girl friend (I was still 16)
2 weeks after I turned 17 I was in boot camp
I have only been back to help them ,after Dad broke his back and to take care of them when they were dying
True story
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rckt148 · 61-69, M
@MotherlessDaughter01 sorry for asking did you read the post ,,there are people who get it
But when you wont forgive ,You hurt you ,no one else
Long after you have a life of your own ,if you don't let it go ,you will still be HURTING YOURSELF ,,
Its ok to grieve ,,don't do like me and let it cost you the best things you'll ever have
I lost 2 good wives and my kids for 12 yrs over not letting go of my pain ,,
I hope it does not take that for you ..
What happens to you after 18 ,is all on you anyway
But when you wont forgive ,You hurt you ,no one else
Long after you have a life of your own ,if you don't let it go ,you will still be HURTING YOURSELF ,,
Its ok to grieve ,,don't do like me and let it cost you the best things you'll ever have
I lost 2 good wives and my kids for 12 yrs over not letting go of my pain ,,
I hope it does not take that for you ..
What happens to you after 18 ,is all on you anyway
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rckt148 · 61-69, M
@SomeMichGuy I say what don't kill you makes you stronger
Mom always said she was making a man of me
I guess like Walt Disney said about his Dad ,guess she did
Mom always said she was making a man of me
I guess like Walt Disney said about his Dad ,guess she did
SomeMichGuy · M
@rckt148
I'm sorry, but many times things may not kill you outright, but weaken you for something else to kill you.
Why do so many vets commit suicide? Because the trauma of their service haunts them in such a painfully personal way.
How about HIV?
How about going through a successful surgery which fixed a condition, only to die of a post-op complication a short time later?
...and on and on and on.
Sorry, but some sayings don't hold water when tested thoroughly.
what don't kill you makes you stronger
I'm sorry, but many times things may not kill you outright, but weaken you for something else to kill you.
Why do so many vets commit suicide? Because the trauma of their service haunts them in such a painfully personal way.
How about HIV?
How about going through a successful surgery which fixed a condition, only to die of a post-op complication a short time later?
...and on and on and on.
Sorry, but some sayings don't hold water when tested thoroughly.
rckt148 · 61-69, M
@MotherlessDaughter01 I would come home from working on engines that run 180 degrees all day ,Locomotives
crank my 600 watt stereo wide open ,pop a top and fire up a joint
I only smoked the best weed you could get and a case of beer was just to get primed when friends showed up
I know now that had to have been hell for her
She couldn't even hear a TV over that ,I was in my den ,she was where ever with our girls ,,it was a daily party at my home ,,I was trying to make up for never getting to be a kid ,
My wife got tired of it
But she left me for a man who pretended to be a Christian but after she married him she found out he was one of the biggest pot growers in Northern Florida ,,His weed was actually famous ,,it was known as "Gainsville Green " you could buy it in a can with a label that said that
He was also the only suspect in her Dads murder
He was his partner ,,she nor I knew any of that at the time
I was so broken over her taking my kids ,,I went to where she lived and kidnapped her and brought her and my kids home ,,after a month (I did not hold her by force ,I just wouldn't let her take our kids again ) she could go when she wanted to ,but my family is part of the law where I come from
She was not getting out of town with our kids again unless I said she could
I hated to see we were broken beyond repair ,so I told her she could take the kids
She got a quick divorce ,married her second husband and they moved ,hiding my kids from me for 12 yrs
I found her in 1995 in June ,,Nov 5th I won full custody of me 2 youngest ,the oldest had already turned 18
crank my 600 watt stereo wide open ,pop a top and fire up a joint
I only smoked the best weed you could get and a case of beer was just to get primed when friends showed up
I know now that had to have been hell for her
She couldn't even hear a TV over that ,I was in my den ,she was where ever with our girls ,,it was a daily party at my home ,,I was trying to make up for never getting to be a kid ,
My wife got tired of it
But she left me for a man who pretended to be a Christian but after she married him she found out he was one of the biggest pot growers in Northern Florida ,,His weed was actually famous ,,it was known as "Gainsville Green " you could buy it in a can with a label that said that
He was also the only suspect in her Dads murder
He was his partner ,,she nor I knew any of that at the time
I was so broken over her taking my kids ,,I went to where she lived and kidnapped her and brought her and my kids home ,,after a month (I did not hold her by force ,I just wouldn't let her take our kids again ) she could go when she wanted to ,but my family is part of the law where I come from
She was not getting out of town with our kids again unless I said she could
I hated to see we were broken beyond repair ,so I told her she could take the kids
She got a quick divorce ,married her second husband and they moved ,hiding my kids from me for 12 yrs
I found her in 1995 in June ,,Nov 5th I won full custody of me 2 youngest ,the oldest had already turned 18
rckt148 · 61-69, M
@SomeMichGuy my friend I will say its a saying I relate with ,,I don't have HIV ,but the rest of your examples fit me too
this is one page of a very long story
Having my face reconstructed ,dying 3 times on an operating table while they removed part of my spine and I may yet die of cancer is all part of it
My struggles have enabled me to help countless others
maybe this story can help someone ,,its the only reason I told it ,,,I am over it now ,,my trials and pain made a better man of me ,,and I am a Vet who was tired of how the VA treats us and come close to taking that route a few times myself ,my brother did
Let me rephrase it then ,,my struggles made me stronger
I have come this far ,why quit now
this is one page of a very long story
Having my face reconstructed ,dying 3 times on an operating table while they removed part of my spine and I may yet die of cancer is all part of it
My struggles have enabled me to help countless others
maybe this story can help someone ,,its the only reason I told it ,,,I am over it now ,,my trials and pain made a better man of me ,,and I am a Vet who was tired of how the VA treats us and come close to taking that route a few times myself ,my brother did
Let me rephrase it then ,,my struggles made me stronger
I have come this far ,why quit now