I Need Advice

These past few days I have been feeling so overwhelmed, it seems like all my life is changing so fast and I do not know if I will be able to deal with everything. This is my last semester at the university and it feels like the "real world" is just around the corner, I do not know if what I have done with my life is worth something or if it even will help me to get a job. I am a good student, I have never failed a class, I have done internships and courses but sometimes it just ask myself "am I doing enough?". I do not want to compare myself to others but I just wonder if they ask themselves the exact same question. I guess at some point in life everyone ask themselves this question.

Appart from this issues, I been feeling a little lonely. I have friends and all but is not like I can think of them as "real friends". I mean, if I have a problem I can tell them and everything, we can talk, but it is not like I have a group or a best friend with whom I talk everyday. Some days it feels like I don´t have real friends at all.

I have a nice boyfriend, he loves me and he supports me but lately he has been really busy with work and we haven´t had much time to hang out as before and maybe that too makes me feel a little sad. I know he has things to do and has responsibilities but is impossible not to want to spend a bit more time with him. In between all this, I feel like I overthink things to much. I really would like to stop thinking so much about everything because it is really hurting me. Specially one thought that I will probably adress in some future post related to him and his past.

So far, this is kind of my life right know; a bit messy, all over the place and I think my writting actually shows how I am feeling. Anyway, I just needed to vent. If you have an advice, I would really appreciate it and I would like to read if someone out there has been feeling like this at some point in life.

When Experience Project was still out there I used often to improve my writing while talking about life and my experiences and that website really helped me to get through a really hard time and I am very thankful for that and all the support I got from the people of the community.

Top | Newest First | Oldest First

ozgirl512 · 26-30, F

It's called growth .. You're leaving an environment you know and understand for one you don't .. There will be tears, but you'll get through that...

What the caterpillar calls death, The butterfly calls life

american22 · 26-30, F

@ozgirl512 Your quote is fantastic, thank you so much.

ozgirl512 · 26-30, F

@american22 that's ok...I wish it was mine, the quote ... It's strange, but I found it written in marker pen on the back of some second hand furniture ... Spread your wings and fly ....

PoetryNEmotion · F

You are not alone in how you feel. You are in transition. The end of your formal education. Now for the real world. That is the challenge. To take what you have learned, to find a job, to start a new phase of your life. I am excited for you! It is okay to feel lost. You are losing a familiar routine. It is a safety net.

Regarding the friends? You will be lucky if you see them again. People tend to scatter after graduation. You will form friendships slowly, but they will come. Don't worry on it. You have family and a boyfriend. You can share with them. And when you are new to a job, share a bit about how you feel. Everyone remembers what the new kid feels like. It can be overwhelming at times. Just breathe. You have the education. Now you practise what you learned. Another transition. Wow.

Talk to your boyfriend. Tell him how you are feeling. Hopefully he understands and supports you. Don't know if he is your life partner, but you are growing with him. I think women tend to think and to overthink. My opinion.

You can find support here. We are all in some sort of transition. I know I started my second life 5 years ago this month. I feel lost often. But I also know I am moving forward and I am learning as I explore the world. Evolving. Happy evolving to you too. I cannot wait to hear about your experiences. Have fun. And breathe.

american22 · 26-30, F

@PoetryNEmotion Thank you so much for your answer, it really made me feel a lot better.

Confined · 56-60, M

I graduated with a BFA 27 years ago. I have had lots of ups and downs since. My work life and marriage did not work out. My x is bipolar and in bad shape. She now lives on the other side of the state.
Real life does get in the way of relationships, but you will have to learn to balance that. It happens to every one.

SW-User

Don't stress out and keep yourself up and positive and hopefully you achieve your best :)

rokrchik1211 · 26-30, F

I feel like that too. I'm in my last semester of university and it feels like I have one foot in school and one foot in the real world but I'm not really in either one. I just feel like I'm kind of stuck between the two of them and not really sure what's next. It's not a good place to be

american22 · 26-30, F

@rokrchik1211 Definitely, it is kind of an existential crisis. A voice in your head tells you that you are ready but another tells you that you are not, so you are stuck between those thoughts. When you are a kid and, for example, you are in middle school you just know the future will take you to high school and when you are in high school you just know the future will take you to college and everything but when you reach to the point when it is time to get out of college you see the picture has become blank and the future becomes unknown; everything is not planned out anymore. Guess it is just how it goes, right?

rokrchik1211 · 26-30, F

@american22 I guess but it is still scary.

Add a comment...