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Would this be considered cheating?

Last night I met someone that I really click with. We are both in relationships but also admitted that there's an attraction and connection between us but that we will not allow it to get in the way of our relationships. I would never cheat on my boyfriend, but I can't help but feel guilty for talking to this other guy. We don't flirt or talk sexually, I genuinely just like talking to him and he doesn't even compare to my boyfriend. We also exchanged phone numbers and are texting right now. Conversation is still very light and innocent (about basketball games, driving tests, etc). So tell me, should I stop talking to him? Again, we've established that our friendship isn't going to go anywhere else.

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havochound

If you feel guilty there must be a reason. This is the best measure I found to determine such a thing

Mirabal19 · 26-30, M

I dont mind ending the friendship. If I do end the friendship, should I tell my boyfriend about it at all?

havochound

lol same rule of thumb can be applied: would you feel guilty if you didn't tell him?

Mirabal19 · 26-30, M

Good point, haha. Thanks.

Mirabal19 · 26-30, M

I think I will talk to him.

havochound

But more appropriate than either question you put forth; why do you feel guilty? Got a pretty good idea myself, maybe explore the feeling for yourself.

Mirabal19 · 26-30, M

I feel guilty because I can't connect with my bf the way I connected with this guy because we live in different states (we met at school)

havochound

lol yeah that's what it seems like, you sure you want to keep going on the route you seem intent?

Mirabal19 · 26-30, M

There is no route though, lol. This guy is a friend, and that's it. Sure there's a connection between us, but I wouldnt do anything to hurt my boyfriend. Plus I told him about it just to see how he would feel. There was never a route. I had already told the friend that I was in a serious relationship and had no intention of hurting it. And he's in the same situation and felt the same way. So imo there is no route. Either way, I told my boyfriend, told the guy that our relationship would have to be completely professional for now even though we would be good friends. trust me on this, there is no route. I am not a cheater.

havochound

lol the route of staying with your boyfriend is the one I meant you seeming to be taking vs not, regardless of your coworker. I do not think of people as cheaters or chaste; people are simply people, so that was never a point of mine.
Put simply: you seem discontent and probably ought to have a look at that source before it bites you in the butt someday; being with someone because of a lack of will to hurt them ends up hurting much more, for everyone.

Mirabal19 · 26-30, M

Thank you for the advice. I probably would not hesitate to break up with him if I was unhappy. But I am, so wish me luck

havochound

Good luck I suppose