Are you an introvert? Do you try to change yourself for everyone to like you?

I constantly turn down the plans my friends make and this has made me less appealing socially. Sometimes it is a struggle to go and try to enjoy when you really dont want to

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SomeMichGuy · M

Yes I am.

I don't think it makes you less appealing--or even appalling...!😉--socially, though I know you said you have turned down lots of plans.

I think you need to evaluate why going out with others might be "a struggle". Is it because you feel pressure to...be "on", participate more than you feel comfortable doing, what?

Is the circle asking you out unable to just be happy you are there, with them...and make too many demands on you?

Tellmeaboutyourself · 26-30, F

@SomeMichGuy Everyone is expected to be full of energy and high. I am quite calm and sober by nature and it really puts me under stress as you mentioned that i have to fit into particular standards. Had this issue since teenage but now i feel im old to think about such things and just let it be and stay alone

SomeMichGuy · M

@Tellmeaboutyourself "E"s on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator tend to wear out "I"s, so I think I get your energy comment.

If you understand that _your_..."energy" comes from things more inside you, that helps, and you might even have that as a conversation with someone(s) in the group, a person or people with whom you feel more connected.

As for the high thing...that gives me pause. Either you are into drinking, drugs, etc., or you aren't. I am not into any of that. Neighbors seem to treat any social occasion as a reason to have (need?) drinks. I don't understand it, they don't understand me. Oh well.