Are you an introvert? Do you try to change yourself for everyone to like you?

I constantly turn down the plans my friends make and this has made me less appealing socially. Sometimes it is a struggle to go and try to enjoy when you really dont want to

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LilMissAnonyMOUSE · F

I was such an extrovert all my life that when I became an introvert no one believed me lol! Still to this day they keep inviting me and keep making plans and I really try hard to turn down as little as possible but I have my days when it's just a definite "No, not happening". Only family and years of friendship, having proven our worth to each other makes them understand and accept me as I am.

Tellmeaboutyourself · 26-30, F

@LilMissAnonyMOUSE accepting part is really true. Most of my friends dont understand me and consider me arrogant for not tagging along

LilMissAnonyMOUSE · F

@Tellmeaboutyourself Yes, I feel for you. There will always be some who feel slighted when you turn down their invitations despite your explanation of being an introvert.They either don't get it or think you can just snap out of it to do them the favor. Don't worry, if they don't stick around, you don't need friends like them who are not empathetic to you.

Tellmeaboutyourself · 26-30, F

@LilMissAnonyMOUSE yes, this is exactly the problem everytime. Im glad i have people in this forum who can understand such problems. I wish my real life friends were such understanding

LilMissAnonyMOUSE · F

@Tellmeaboutyourself Don't worry, those who have understanding hearts will accept you for what you are. It is important though to nurture your friendship, so once in a while do make the effort of reaching out even by phone to ask how they are. It's an effort to force ourselves to be social but trust me, for our mental health, being completely introvert and not talking and seeing anyone at all isn't healthy.Introvertion will lead to extreme reclusion and that is dangerous for you because you will not even call out for help if you need it one day. Being a moderate introvert is fine,you'll still be in control of your life. I wish you good luck!☺️