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SnailTeeth · 36-40, M
Fixation and obsession are only healthy when it comes to situations and things you can control (Eg. Schoolwork). You're really just being led astray by your mating instincts at this point, and it's probably going to end in disappointment (Statistically, 80% of relationships fail). I would advise not getting overly excited about future prospects, and keep that reserved for your actual girl. Focus on getting yourself established and educated first, don't give into the fomo.
Birthdaycries · 13-15, M
@SnailTeeth i know, but without excitement and expectations there is no happiness for the future and present bro
SnailTeeth · 36-40, M
@Birthdaycries Happiness is appreciating the present to its fullest, without a need to look to the future for more happiness. What are you really getting excited about here? What do you actually know about this person and their history? What makes you think it isn't just hormones distracting you?
It's not that I'm not happy for you, but it's crucial to be calm, level, and objective in all considerations of your life. If this isn't just to satiate your hormonal urges, then what are you looking for with her presently? What are you looking to build?
It's not that I'm not happy for you, but it's crucial to be calm, level, and objective in all considerations of your life. If this isn't just to satiate your hormonal urges, then what are you looking for with her presently? What are you looking to build?
Birthdaycries · 13-15, M
@SnailTeeth a happy life with her, she is very interesting and mysterious, so im interested
SnailTeeth · 36-40, M
@Birthdaycries When you say "interesting", what attributes and personal interests of hers do you find interesting? Or is it that she actively goes out of her way to display interest in you?
The world is mysterious, people learn new things every day. Why do you specifically need to invest your interests in her? How does that help or improve you? Honestly, it seems like a distraction from school, and really just sounds like hormones.
It's not about rushing through the checklist of life, so much as it is browsing each section casually, and soaking it in while you're there.
Excitement wears off quickly. What if she gives you a chance, but loses interest? Do you want to open yourself up to that rejection?
The world is mysterious, people learn new things every day. Why do you specifically need to invest your interests in her? How does that help or improve you? Honestly, it seems like a distraction from school, and really just sounds like hormones.
It's not about rushing through the checklist of life, so much as it is browsing each section casually, and soaking it in while you're there.
Excitement wears off quickly. What if she gives you a chance, but loses interest? Do you want to open yourself up to that rejection?
Birthdaycries · 13-15, M
@SnailTeeth im open to that option, my mind set is: if it has to happen, it will happen, and yeah, maybe it is hormones, im growing up and its normal, is a part of life you probably went thru too, and its just like- a spark of her that makes me interested, we have a lot in common, and its probably the nicest person i have met, i have liked her since i was 7 man,
SnailTeeth · 36-40, M
@Birthdaycries That's a long time, she would likely have pursued you by now, I really wouldn't invest any hope without coming clean with her. Everything is nice from a distance, but the main thing is to be forthcoming. Technically, befriending someone with the hopes of something more evolving is considered stalking in the eyes of the authority, whether or not you see it that way. It sounds like puppy love. It sounds like you're putting this on a pedestal is all. I'm just trying to be a voice of reason. If you're not going to make the move soon, you should really let that flame burn out and never really settle or anticipate a future with someone until you know it's mutual. I think you're really just building yourself up to be let down.
Birthdaycries · 13-15, M
@SnailTeeth i have 2 option's, im grateful with any of them: Be his friend - being his lover-