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Why are (most) men intimidated by attractive women?

Women don't usually get intimidated by an attractive man, they get a crush and it makes them excited no matter their confidence level. For me personally, I'm not overly confident and I've actually be labelled as "shy" my entire life but when I see a hot guy, it makes me smile and I compliment him in my mind lol it kind of makes my day a little nicer. I know that hot guy probably didn't even notice me, he's probably got an equally hot girlfriend and he's out of my league anyway and knowing that, I wouldn't feel intimidated. So saying men are intimidated because she's out of their league or fearing rejection doesn't seem to be all there is to it because it doesn't seem to apply when the roles are reversed in my opinion.
fun4us2b · M Best Comment
I've always been the same as you stated

[u]I know that hot guy probably didn't even notice me, he's probably got an equally hot girlfriend and he's out of my league anyway and knowing that, I wouldn't feel intimidated.[/u]

It was always when that "certain one" was near I start dropping things and bumping into stuff...
fun4us2b · M
[@1201494,SweetFantasy] Thanks for BC ☺️
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
[@64578,fun4us2b] Hey, when you're the best, you're the best!
fun4us2b · M
[@1201494,SweetFantasy] Nope you’re the best! you’re too kind😊

Red500 · 41-45, M
Because attractive women get approached more often and have perfected the art of telling a guy to get lost. As guys we know this from many instances of it happening to us. So we expect that rejection before we even start.
Asmae · 31-35, F
Women get intimated by attractive men and women too ~
Asmae · 31-35, F
[@1201494,SweetFantasy] It rarely happens though now ~ but when it happens it just sucks ~ I hate it when they have an effect on me like that 🥴
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
[@509132,Asmae] It's cool if it's a hot stranger in passing because that's a brief feeling but if it's someone I see regularly it could get me all in my feelings lol
HouseOfCards · 46-50, F
[@1201494,SweetFantasy] I def won’t spontaneously approach an attractive man if he’s a stranger. it’s not a crush thing, or a cute nervous energy, i just conclude we are not in the same ball game.
Slickmel · 56-60, M
Lots of attractive wemen wear a lot of makeup but when it's removed eeeewwwww not attractive anymore
helenS · 31-35, F
[@15676,jackson55] Yes it can be sort of a face mask. 😷
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
[@1072998,Slickmel] in those cases, go with the women who wear little to no makeup then there's no surprises come night time when she takes it off
Slickmel · 56-60, M
[@1201494,SweetFantasy] let the force be with you
Dragfan8200 · 36-40, M
ohh this happens to me all the time. i always feel some beautiful lady is out of my league or has a guy. yes im shy to but here in the states there are alot of things and factors that go along with it / ill tell u the rest in pm
Dragfan8200 · 36-40, M
[@6602,helenS] ohh ok well. if she wants help i will. and i think we have chatted before Helen. im not sure lol i have changed my name a few times
helenS · 31-35, F
[@416946,Dragfan8200] Haha if you changed your name then I don't know. You might send a pm if you like so I can see who you are.
Dragfan8200 · 36-40, M
ok i can. [@6602,helenS]
EuphoricTurtle · 36-40, M
I don't agree with that. I think there are a number of reactions which sometimes get mistaken for being intimidated.

Sure there are men that get intimidated by attractive women (or even just the thought of approaching any women), but I'm not so sure that's the majority.

Some play a safer game where they're looking for less probability of rejection because they don't really know how to deal with rejection. Then it becomes an issue about rejection and not how attractive the woman is.

For me personally I am very hesitant about attractive women (the definition of which is very subjective). I am hesitant because I don't trust myself completely and I'm afraid of being so blinded by the aesthetic side that I'll subconsciously forgive serious character flaws.
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
[@17323,EuphoricTurtle] true, men possibly also think "she's attractive so putting myself out there I'm probably already competing with other guys" ...?
EuphoricTurtle · 36-40, M
[@1201494,SweetFantasy] I guess to some there is also that competitive side, it has nothing to do with being rejected by her but instead "losing" to another guy. Like I said, there are a lot of possible reasons and some may get misinterpreted as being intimidated.
SW User
From what I gather, they feel that they do all the work approaching women and if she is attractive then his chance of rejection is higher.
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
[@44604,Aidolovemostofyourthoughts] very logical. When you see a guy who you think is out of your league do you get anxious and fear him or do you admire that he's attractive and it doesn't get you down?
SW User
[@1201494,SweetFantasy] I don't get intimidated easily, no matter how attractive he is. :)
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
[@44604,Aidolovemostofyourthoughts] Exactly, our mind stays positive we get butterflies and smile or whatever but I've heard of and know of men who instantly get afraid and sad just because the woman is attractive
It's because things are inside out in this upside down world.. men are raised to be subjected to things by govt, most men have a slave mentality rather than a king mentality.. also, they cant understand women and that makes their own life non understandable. It's hard to operate even technology with confidence if you dont understand it, how much more your own life... understand hindsight is 20/20 or I couldn't tell you this..

Hot girls tend to walk away from me if they aren't hopping in my bed, cuz I'll make them cheeks flush like a cluster of ripe cherries..
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
[@1199560,Jdanielb] The slave mentality vs king mentality thing is an eye opener.
[@1201494,SweetFantasy] truth is my only purpose, I live in america but I pay no tax except on the dollar I spend, I spend no dollar except what I receive for free doing thing I enjoy, I dont submit to govt or laws but love is my moral compass so I rarely break any laws or make a nuisance of myself..

It has to do with actual laws of creations design and not fictitious laws of man's design..

I despise religion and its legalistic teachers who are confused, however I have read all sacred texts I could find from every culture; my conclusion is women thrive better than men in a world with fictitious designs and laws, (please dont take offense to this truth), for the woman is as creation herself and designed to nurture life and be subjected, men were designed contrary to nature, and born to subject her to their will. It is only a shame that men have become evil by allowing their own subjection, rather than being the subjector.. that may have a slightly crazy sound to it, but to help straighten out the view on where I am coming from , I say this, I think women are beautiful creatures and precious treasures, I can get a lot from them by just holding them in my lap and loving them, but I also am a just a male beast, born to reproduce, so the blood hound gang was not wrong.. "you and me baby , we ain't nothing but mammals, let's do it like they do on the discovery channel"

So then the synapsis is, dear sister, unless you desire to break the chains of govt, you will not find many real men, who dont cower at the site of a pretty girl.
Katabasis · 41-45, M
I don’t think this is as common as people say. Maybe it’s regional.
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
[@1123335,Katabasis] It's almost common knowledge you hear it all the time that men are intimidated because the woman is probably very attractive. I just wonder why men instantly feel fear but women feel happy lol
Katabasis · 41-45, M
[@1201494,SweetFantasy] Okay. I only come across it online. From my own perspective, her being attractive doesn’t make her a better person, or more competent at her career. So there’s no reason to be intimidated. Looks don’t save you from a poor result in a management review or other life situations. I might be ugly as sin, but I can still out perform or out achieve any Hollywood beauty.
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
[@1123335,Katabasis] That is very true looks are superficial. It's intriguing that men's minds usually go straight to the negative when women's usually go to the positive. I get happy butterflies when I see someone I'm attracted to, I don't get sad and scared of them because they're attractive.
Bushmanoz · 56-60, M
I think you said what goes thru some guys heads, the same thing that goes thru yours. You see a hot guy but don't say hi because you have already told yourself you dont measure up or because he has a hot gf. Go say hi, we are all just people. Someone commented guys are used to being shot down, because women are hit on with corny one liners etc, and ready to tear the guy down. But if you talk, like people a lot of that won't happen, for you too
Dolimyte · 36-40, M
There is an underlying expectation that as the man, you be the pursuer. You need to show her that you are interested and risk being rejected. For women it more of a waiting game, an 'I hope he notices me' kind of mentality. Obviously this isn't always the case, but it's fairy ubiquitous in my experience.
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
[@1999,Dolimyte] Those men who are intimidated are playing the waiting game because they don't act on their feelings they just sit back and brood.
Dolimyte · 36-40, M
[@1201494,SweetFantasy] that's true
TheSunisout · 56-60, M
For me an attractive lady is a person who has a nice friendly face, I dont feel intimidated in anyway. some people who find others attractive, I dont really feel intimidated.
helenS · 31-35, F
Yes it's true many men are afraid of approaching a woman they consider extremely attractive. Lack of confidence is most likely the reason.
JanBos2 · 56-60, M
Men will not easily accept they belong to a 'leaque', like you describe that in a great way. They often cant imagine they dont belong to the best league there is.
Reflection2 · 36-40, M
out of my league
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What league? Who defines this league? What are the bases of such comparison? Looks?
helenS · 31-35, F
[@830055,Reflection2] Yes, I think it refers to looks, or, more generally, outward appearance.
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
[@830055,Reflection2] Well we are talking about someone you would only really know of physically because you don't know them yet. So there are levels of attractiveness and it's to each their own to determine who is too attractive or not attractive enough for them.
GerOttman · 61-69, M
I think when I was younger, I was intimidated by any woman. Now, not so much. I am often skeptical, if that's the right word, of very attractive women.
JohnnyNoir · M
I always felt like I was out of their league. I'm no pretty boy so it was intimidating to be around them.
Pretzel · 61-69, M
because we are afraid of the rejection of somebody we think is out of our league
everyoneknows · 31-35, T
well men always think they can turn arround girls to like them back 😁😅🤷🏼‍♂️
Havesomefun · 56-60, M
They think no chance!!! Would she look at me
everyoneknows · 31-35, T
because its the modern times satan
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
[@1202007,everyoneknows] what?
Signals · M
Yeah, no one is out of anyone’s league
SW User
They are afraid of rejection.
Ferric67 · M
The can manifestate your reality.
I can’t relate to this. That’s the thing about generalizations—they just don’t ring true for everyone.

 
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