Rudboy41 · 41-45, M
In relationships there is a difference between intimacy and physical sex. If you look at how your relationship started, that was your sex 'base line' was it just fucking from the begging and you eventually can't keep up with his libido anymore? or was there some other type of intimacy engaging besides just physical sex.
There are many reasons that i guy can start being hyperfocused on the physical sex in the relationship, at the expense of the intimacy of the relationship.
Your boyfriend might be medicating his own issues with sex for instance, with the tell tale sign -- what the vibe is like after the orgasm? does he want to cuddle or does he get cold and go back to normal, making you feel like a roomate?
If the answer was yes, then it's likely that he is using sex(i.e your body) to feel better about himself, the reason could be that i might have a habit with porn or be hypersexualized as a result of trauma that he is trying to soothe.
I can't tell what his reason is, but my advice is that you need to address it with him that your relationship is starting to feel transactional and the intimacy elephant. On his end he should look at why he needs the sex more than intimacy and work backwards as to how and why he got there.
If it's not worth asking these questions or putting in the effort of talking, then i'd say just end things.
There are many reasons that i guy can start being hyperfocused on the physical sex in the relationship, at the expense of the intimacy of the relationship.
Your boyfriend might be medicating his own issues with sex for instance, with the tell tale sign -- what the vibe is like after the orgasm? does he want to cuddle or does he get cold and go back to normal, making you feel like a roomate?
If the answer was yes, then it's likely that he is using sex(i.e your body) to feel better about himself, the reason could be that i might have a habit with porn or be hypersexualized as a result of trauma that he is trying to soothe.
I can't tell what his reason is, but my advice is that you need to address it with him that your relationship is starting to feel transactional and the intimacy elephant. On his end he should look at why he needs the sex more than intimacy and work backwards as to how and why he got there.
If it's not worth asking these questions or putting in the effort of talking, then i'd say just end things.
Adogslife · 61-69, M
The interest may be high because the relationship is new.
Since I don’t know ages, it could be a lack of maturity.
Or, it’s possible you’re being used. His interests are purely sexual. You’re the closest to him and that was your guess…
Since I don’t know ages, it could be a lack of maturity.
Or, it’s possible you’re being used. His interests are purely sexual. You’re the closest to him and that was your guess…
luckranger71 · 51-55, M
Probably a red flag. It’s great and important to have a physical attraction in a relationship. But it’s not going to sustain it over the long term.
sahi81 · 22-25, F
Have you communicated with him how you feel about his interest in only physical towards you? Communication is important for relationships.
sahi81 · 22-25, F
i too had same problem when dating guys...
😂 Your profile lists nothing about you. That's what I find "intersting" in regards to this accusatory, anti-male post. What else do you offer him? Nothing?
eMortal · M
You're hot. It's gonna happen a lot by the time you reach 30.
Date older guys if you want your emotional needs met.
Date older guys if you want your emotional needs met.
laurieluvsit · 26-30, F
Why don't you find a new boyfriend that is not sexually natured then? (which most are) ...problem solved
sahi81 · 22-25, F
@laurieluvsit she is saying why "only sexual" , why no other interest " getting to know her, romantic interest, interest in her career/goals, her personality, etc".
laurieluvsit · 26-30, F
@sahi81
I get it, the mix is not there.
My point still holds.
It's just finding the right mix and far less sexual I think would be that for her as that is all that most of the guys that I know seem to think about, or at least they come off that way most of the time.
She could be exaggerating some as well to make her point which is understandable.
I get it, the mix is not there.
My point still holds.
It's just finding the right mix and far less sexual I think would be that for her as that is all that most of the guys that I know seem to think about, or at least they come off that way most of the time.
She could be exaggerating some as well to make her point which is understandable.
Nanori · F
That's not your bf, that's your user
deadgerbil · 26-30
It's time to ditch the 'bf'
How do you know
DonaldTrumpet · 70-79, M
What’s u oNz scalesZ 1-10 tho?
Northwest · M
Why do you allow it?
CountScrofula · 41-45, M
What interests do you have in him?
simjks4 · 22-25, M
That’s pure lust right there… time to pack it up
Alyosha · 31-35, M
Sounds like a functional relationship.
he doesn’t care about you. leave him.
Sevendays · M
One physical interest or only one interest at all?
novaguy2u · 70-79, M
Find someone less single minded.
BigImo · 26-30, F
Dump him asap
DazzaTheHutt · M
Maybe he should find you repulsive instead and go with someone else.
Degbeme · 70-79, M
That isn`t a BF. That is a sidekick.
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gandalf1957 · 61-69, M
@KatyO83 very probably true
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