Why do i still have feelings for him if he just keeps hurting me over and over?
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4meAndyou · F
Not knowing you personally, at all, I am just talking out of my a$$, of course...but I was exactly the same way with my ex...with two of them, in fact.
In fact, every time I find someone I can care about, they are like the same man...abusive.
After having gone through it so many times, I have realized WHY I always choose abusive men. It's because my childhood was so abusive that I choose what I KNOW. What I know feels normal at first...and then it always spirals out of control...because I am attracted to narcissistic a-holes.
If your parent(s) were narcissists or verbally abusive toward you, then you are choosing what feels most normal to you.
If you ever reach a stage in your life where you are sick and tired of that, and you find you are tough enough to be alone, I highly recommend trying it for a while.
It's VERY hard to let go of NEEDING someone, and missing them when you have been close. Women tend to bond to their sexual partners on a biological and chemical level. It might be that your feelings are more about you than about him.
In fact, every time I find someone I can care about, they are like the same man...abusive.
After having gone through it so many times, I have realized WHY I always choose abusive men. It's because my childhood was so abusive that I choose what I KNOW. What I know feels normal at first...and then it always spirals out of control...because I am attracted to narcissistic a-holes.
If your parent(s) were narcissists or verbally abusive toward you, then you are choosing what feels most normal to you.
If you ever reach a stage in your life where you are sick and tired of that, and you find you are tough enough to be alone, I highly recommend trying it for a while.
It's VERY hard to let go of NEEDING someone, and missing them when you have been close. Women tend to bond to their sexual partners on a biological and chemical level. It might be that your feelings are more about you than about him.