Do you enjoy being checked out occasionally

...but ALSO feel so self conscious at the same time???

An attractive guy was looking at me twice as I walked nearby today. Even though at FIRST i enjoyed it I felt so awkward as I got closer.😩 I really hate it. If he had ever talked to me I would've for a minute too..but if they show MORE interest I will clam up and I don't feel I am enough. I wish life were not this difficult when it came to love or attraction 😟

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thewindupbirdchronicles · 46-50, M

Oh, please and awww... You have many qualities. I think I know your feeling, I'm not the forward man, and believe it or not so many woman want to be seduced. I've always connected with those who seduced me. Had a moment this past weekend, while buying fish for my aquarium, I had not felt in so long, I knew I was being checked out by a woman with a young son buying her son his first fish tank. I knew the smile and I knew the body language. I am involved with someone I love (long distance), I just returned her smile, and it felt like a million years since. It caught me so off guard.

I just returned a smile.

That was enough. Of course, I had reasons to not try and flirt, but I did lap up the attention some. You will find someone, and you don't want the story, anxiety always kept me away. (even if it's understandble).... there is a man out there who understands you, sees you, and the old cliche, when you least expect. Just don't close yourself off.