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Why does this chick im avoiding keep forcing conversations at work with me?

So long story short, we was cool at work she asked me to text her so i did, she took 3 weeks to tell me she had a bf randomly. Then said her bf didnt care that we texted and then weirdly asked me to meet her bf one time, which i said no. Later on after i questioned about texting me 24/7 while she has a bf, she replied it was ok and he knows and doesnt care & 3 says later after me asking she cut it off and said all of a sudden he was mad at her for talking to me? It made no sense so i told her we shouldn't talk and i began avoiding and ignoring her.

About a month later she sees me at work and starts talking to me again randomly. So i thought maybe she was done with the weird games and gave her anothrr chance at being "friends" where she said lets forget what happen and be friends again so atleast so it wasnt awkward at work anymore. We texted for 3 days and she did the same thing again, claiming her bf was mad at her and just talk to her at work where that became where we barely see eachother at work. So one day ahe notices im waiting for a ride cause my sister had my truck and was coming to pick me up.

Well ahe says she can give me a ride ? I said no my sister was coming & i asked how can u offer me a ride ? Wont your "boyfriend" get mad ? She says its just a ride... so i told her ok why Don't you just message me off discord & she tells me she can't and she wont go behind her boyfriends back. But she will offer me a ride & talk to me at work behind his back? So after that i went back to ignoring her and avoiding her. She still would anyway say Hi and scream my name out whenever she does see me at work and wave and try to talk to me anyway. Where i would only head nod and say hey and thats it and try to keep it short.

Now she catches me after work and said hey and started talking to me again and forcing conversation with me, she eventually said she had to go, and then texted me later on asking me the time she starts and putting smiley faces all over and thanking me for telling her and then i didnt reply? At this point she makes no sense to me. What does she want ?
WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F
It seems she wants you to be interested in her, even though she has a bf.

But I don’t know her or you, or the full situation. Maybe she’s just lonely, or feels a connection between you but doesn’t want to upset her bf? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Either way it seems confusing and like it could cause drama, so I would continue to keep distance
@WaryWitchWandering I agree with You, I think You said it better than my own comment.
Different · 31-35, M
@WaryWitchWandering i been keeping my distance cause fhats all i can do we do have a connection but im not gonna play into the games.
SW-User
she's attempting to build your interest in her. she wants you to chase her... but i wouldn't
WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F
@SW-User agreed
Mudkip · 31-35, M
Lol bro don't even pay attention to her. It sounds confusing and like it's a waste of time. Don't pay too much attention to it from now on.
Different · 31-35, M
@NativePortlander1970 what type of help do u think shes reaching out for ?
Different · 31-35, M
@Mudkip thats what i think, she is tryna line me up to be her next jump lol but also thinks im gonna chase but its all backfiring cause im ignoring and avoiding lol
Mudkip · 31-35, M
@Different yeah bro, don't pay attention to that. Anything that isn't work related, forget about it
just curious...but if she were single would she be someone you'd be interested in dating
Different · 31-35, M
@beermeplease i would if she didnt play do many games, she knows i am interested in her bht she palying way to much.
BeJeweled · F
From what I've read she sounds like she enjoys playing with your mind and seeing if you get interested so she can play the bf card again. I think it would be best if you dont reply to her texts anymore. It should end the charade and toxicity!
Coralmist · 41-45, F
Hmm seems she enjoys your friendship at the very least but is torn because she is not single. Perhaps I would still be friendly.. but just say "maybe we can chat more extensively someday if you are single"
GeniUs · 56-60, M
Think I'd have met the bf told him what was going on and then declare you have no interest in somebody who 1. Has a partner already and 2. Enjoys playing emotionally abusive games. Don't forget to wish him the best of luck before you part ways.

I had to get serious on this post, I don't like that now she's pissed me off too.
PoeticPlay · 51-55, M
Never tempt a chick that takes more psych meds than you do. 🙄

Have you ever watched a movie titled "Wedding Crashers"?

If not, then I suggest that you do.
Might shed a light.
looping · 18-21
sounds like she's into cheating and is tryna ease you into helping her.
Different · 31-35, M
@looping if she was down i already tried to get her to msg behind his back but she wasnt down...
SumKindaMunster · 51-55, M
"Branch swinging"

She's looking for another boyfriend before she dumps the current one.
Different · 31-35, M
@SumKindaMunster thats what it seems like too
496sbc · 36-40, M
Sounds like she is using u to make her bf jealous and ur a pawn in the middle
ArtieKat · M
Talk to your HR department - this could turn very toxic for you at work
Stop communicating by text.
Different · 31-35, M
@LamontCranston theirs no other way to communicate we barely aee eachother at work.
@Different When you do see her, tell her to stop texting. If that can't be aranged, text her with same message. Say something like, "It is inappropriate for us to be texting. If there is something you want to discuss, we should do it in person."
Different · 31-35, M
@LamontCranston yeah see she alrwsdy told me she. Ant text me cause her bf so i dont text and havent and we dint even see eachother enough and theirs way to many ppl around us for me to confront her about anythinf in person lol makes it really hard.
HotPizza71 · 51-55, M
Attention and to fight with her bf !!
Hanginginthere · 31-35, M
If you really aren’t interested in her you aren’t doing a very good job in communicating that to her 🤷🏾‍♂️
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I think she sees you as safe and stable, kind of like a bouy in a life she has that seems stormy, she may need you as a lifeline if her ship goes down.
Different · 31-35, M
@NativePortlander1970 well if any of that is true she needs to voice it then and stop playing.
@Different She may be too shy
Different · 31-35, M
@NativePortlander1970 when i asked her to wrote me.on doscord instead during work hours and she said nah so she wasnt shy when she said that.
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