Gas station flowers🤷‍♀️ So I'm dating this new guy for awhile now and he brings me flowers,...

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

This is a gift I treasure that I received a while back by a little girl that knocked on my half open door. I really don't know her very well. Just one of the neighborhood kids I've seen around.

As you can see it wasn't even bought! Why do you believe bought and more expensive things are better? 🤔😞

Just the fact that she was willing to approach me and knock on my door ment the world to me.

It's something not even adults are willing to do.

Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M

I mean he was thoughtful enough to get you flowers..
Focusing on the price of gifts and judging the relationship you have based on that isn't the priority, it's whether they show you that they care. Forget instagram, they only post the biggest moments and edit things to be perfect, real life is different. Maybe another day he gets you flowers from M&S, is the gesture any different?.

Like I think the idea of settling itself is indicitive of priorities being out of balance, it's a bit of a toxic concept in itself, as it leads people to never being satisfied and also places too much judgement on the people you're dating, its also demeaning for the other person like we're valuating people down to not checking off the boxes on our wish lists.

I'm not judging you btw, but I'm saying that you'll probably have a healthier mindset and be happier if you just focus on gestures and what really matters, which is whether they care about you and show that. I blame Western notions of romance which are in fact just Western, placing value on gifts and lofty ideals, sure we'll all have those moments but our expectations are far too high a lot of the time. It's hyperreality.

BetweenKittensandRiots · 36-40, MVIP

I think you're thinking too much about this one.

Personally. I mean flowers are flowers.

I guess as far as a romantic jesture though he could have gone further out of his way.

but I mean these days it's as easy as 1800flowers or just ordering some online.

MURD3RM0NK3Y · 26-30, M

It's the thought that matters. Just be grateful.

ShadowWolf · 31-35, M

Does it matter? I climbed a mountain for a flower for a girl once. I didn’t pay a dime for it. I think effort and thought are what matter. If you base things on instagram you may find yourself getting into golddigger territory.

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SW-User

I don't know the answer but I think it's an excellent question and may be so personal that it depends not only on who they are but who you are, the situation at hand and their intention. Personally, I find the nicest flowers at our local grocery but if I was in a gas station and saw a flower on my way to see someone I care about and thought it was pretty (which I then associated with the person I wanted to give it to) I would hope she'd accept it in the spirit it was given and not think it had anything to do with her worth. But we're in a crazy world with crazy people. Who can tell what crazy shit people have rolling through their brains.

SW-User

it just sounds like ur more materialistic than him, like maybe its a sign that you're both very different

Foxes · F

It seems like a last minute thought to me.

eyeno · M

Your over thinking it, stop comparing, be grateful he thought of you through out the day. And brought you something, but anything will suffice really.
Just think some men don't even think to do what he does...,

Video is old but focus on the words he sings. It's about a woman in your circumstance and frame of mind...,
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IWasCallingYaLarry · 26-30, M

Some gas stations have very nice flowers. I know someone who got his wife 3 boquets of flowers for Mother's Day and one of them was from a BP. They had a very nice selection there and they looked very fresh.

canusernamebemyusername · M

Those other girls and friends do not have it better. People fake themselves on social media. They look like they are happy and have everything togather when most of the time the opposite is true.