For those who had a calm or supportive environment as a child

*Seeking replies just from those who had a loving childhood
1. How were you treated?
2. How did you feel in that environment?
3. How did receiving love or support as a child mold you /help you into the adult you are now?

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Renaci · 36-40

Mine was somewhat in the middle. My dad wasn't the supportive type and when he would get mad he would just give everyone the silent treatment. So I consider that much more pleasant than being screamed at or beaten.
It probably did contribute to my personality because I like the quiet. Probably because I was always used to that. Now I can't take a lot of chaotic noise, drama, screaming, yelling and or anger. I'm just too used to things being calm.

Baybreeze · 41-45, F

@Renaci Interesting. My world was chaos and noise and yelling...but I also can't take alot of it. I do take a lot of people's shit, because I was told to think of THEIR stance even if they were wrong..over mine. 😞 Its so hard trying to pretend that you also have rights when you were engrained to think your feelings don't matter. I often wonder how lighter I might feel if I had a calm dynamic as a kid, or supportive. Probably I would be more assertive, and feel I am worth a man's time despite my issues. Im sorry you also didn't feel support. 🙁

Renaci · 36-40

@Baybreeze I did get support from my mom. My parents kind of were opposite like that. Lol
I also think it can have to do with the child's personality as well. Some that grow up in a chaotic environment will be chaotic themselves. Others will end up calm as a way of rebelling against what they had to go through. It really depends on the person and how there can be different reactions to the same circumstances.