Did I f up by scheduling a massage and pedicure on the anniversary of my late wife's and unborn son's death?

I have been wanting to get a massage and pedi for a while now. I called a place that I can get them done in one place. After I got off the phone is when it hit me. I have been trying to not think about her during this time of year as it makes me super depressed. Now I make an appointment out of town about an hour and a half away. I have the tendency to think alot when I am driving......

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JupiterDreams · 31-35

No, you didn't do anything wrong. I don't mean for this to sound harsh but you can't stop living your life because they're gone... They'd want you to move forward and spend every day normally, even on what would've been anniversaries.

ColoradoKid · 46-50, M

@JupiterDreams My life has always been far from normal. You don't sound harsh at all. I see therapists and psychologists and take meds. Contrary to popular belief all of that don't cure depression. I just got a new therapist and I told her what I go through 2 weeks before and 2 weeks after. I have nightmares that are always the same. I relive that day in those nightmares. I just lost my last grandmother on the 17th. I kinda got hit with a double. I feel worse for my mom than I do myself. I had 3 people that I live for.. now down to 2. I find it funny when I had gotten a pedi from a different person when they ask me if I want them painted and I say yes. Bobbie had painted them one night while I was distracted.

SweetNSassy · F

It sounds like a massage is what you need. A lot of people don’t know this but memories are stored in your tissue and you need healing and comfort, which is something that can help with.

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