Who's more likely to cheat on their partner - a SAHM or a working mum?

I've not really had experience with being cheated on except by my first ex. At the time she was a SAHM not working then got a job (I had one the whole time - shiftwork train driving that I still do now).

I don't know what makes women want to cheat other than they feel their current partner isn't 'satisfactory' against the standards that the women have set. Could be sexual-related, or it could be about the perceived 'mental load', or it could just be that a woman flips out when her partner choose to work overtime, or after a long work day wants to sit down for 5 minutes, or something similar.

Some women go so far as to claim that being a SAHM should be a 'paid job' similar to the actual job the partner does in order to support his partner and family.

What are your thoughts?

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PatientlyWaiting25 · 46-50, F

I think women cheat because they are not feeling emotionally stimulated enough. It has little to do with the quality or frequency of sex but whether they feel noticed, appreciated, desirable or excited to spend time with their man.

A stay at home mum can often feel lacking all of that. She is trapped in a monotony of chores, doesn't feel sexy, probably has baby puke on her shoulder or weetabix in her hair and then her guy comes home tells her some funny stories about HIS day and neglects to ask about hers. She's not seen as being valued. It's a red flag.

The employed woman might feel emotionally met more easily. She has a reason to put nice clothes on, style her hair and do her makeup every day. These things help her feel desirable. Emotionally she might feel cared for more, if not by her man at home but by other men that she comes into contact with. Bottom line is, if you want to keep her, you have to make her feel wanted and appreciated.

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