What makes a man want a relationship not just sex?

All the guys I meet have more fun with others than they do with me...
I go with the flow but the moment we have plans especially booked and I want to be there on time.
Somehow its always a problem.
They might be late once and I let it slide but the 2nd I get upset.
I hate tardiness and I don't think I should stop being myself.
I have to be honest.
This is when they start getting all distant and only seeing me on their terms

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val70 · 51-55

Well, perhaps in their own thinking there's more fun with a girl who hasn't got "issues". Sadly, dating-wise anything nowadays too personal like being overly politeness can be seen like that.
Someone who really wants a relationship always looks at it on the long term becasuse with true love comes caring for the person. Hope this helps a bit

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@val70 the amount of guys that say they want long term. Then they meet me and suddenly I'm too much for them or just not enough!

val70 · 51-55

@Mellowgirl The difference between saying and doing is enormous. People just play a game at times. I once flew over the Atlantic to meet a woman I met online and then didn't want to meet. I was travelling on busses and all of a sudden I met her at the busstop on my very last day. I simply walked past her. I cared more for her than she did for me, obviously. It happens. Hugs your way!

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@val70 omg!

What a b*tch!

That's scary.
I don't think I could recover from that.

You're a strong man.

val70 · 51-55

@Mellowgirl Not really. I'm a woman. And I hurt so much at times 😢

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@val70 I'm sorry my assumption was wrong! Strong woman

val70 · 51-55

@Mellowgirl That's alright. Never did get over the woman though. Wanted to make you feel a bit better. I experienced another bad one on here only this week but I'm taking it much better. Ultimately, I wanted to say that you shouldn't give up on yourself like that. There are some great ones out there but there are indeed fewer of them than a normal girl grew up believing

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@val70 I'm really struggling...

I really thought I met the one.
He is so far from perfect but he is a trier.
I haven't given up on him but he gives up on himself because making the changes he has decided for himself is hard work.
I'm the only person that makes him want to do better and as a consequence I'm also the one that gets the anger when he falls back.
I'm not pushing him or trying to encourage anything because I didn't want to take on the mothering role.
I've done that before and men don't respect women like that.

I'm really sorry that she broke your heart.
From what little I've witnessed of you here.
They have lucked out...