I Wish I Was In a Great Relationship

I had an emotional affair, and a physical affair while she deserted my son and I and slept for two years. Only after she abandoned us for two years for the bed did I give up on the marriage and have the affair. @VeronicaJane

@Genieinabottle for the bed? Did she leave to be with another lover?

@VeronicaJane no, literally for the bed. She stayed in bed 24/7 for months and then years.

@Genieinabottle she was ill?

When I finished my degree and started making big money it was supposed to be her reward that she wouldn't have to work anymore. I expected and she said she would do something like volunteer at my son's school or at a day care because she loves children. However, she just didn't do a fucking thing. I had an assistant who did everything, shopping, bringing my boy to school, errands, cleaning the house, everything. When she had replaced my wife everywhere but the bed (after about 18 months) I got sick of fighting with my wife to fucking do something - anything. She didn't do anything for me or my son or the house at all. She was depressed arguably but refused to get help. I felt deserted. I felt abandoned and I felt betrayedmi also believed she didn't care about the marriage anymore and only then did I have an affair (two - one physical with my assistant and one emotional with Shopgirl). I believed the marriage was over and moved in that direction until I told her I was leaving. She wanted to stay together.

@Genieinabottle but you had your physical and emotional affairs behind her back without bringing up that your needs were not being met. When you apparently did bring up your frustration, she said she wanted to stay together.

What she did was not fair. But who cheated on whom?

Yes, I cheated. I thought the marriage was over but I did cheat. Her one night stand was inconsequential and it still hurt and angered me..@VeronicaJane

@Genieinabottle Totally understand the why, but that does not make it right. If you had brought it up, and she agreed, then totally different story.

Yes her's before marriage was inconsequential. Why did it hurt and anger you after you had been having those affairs for years?

My affair - the emotional and non sexual one last a year. It was a slow burn to a roar - the physical affair lasted a few months. they were two different women.@VeronicaJane

@VeronicaJane no, it wasn't inconsequential in a vacuum - it was still fucked up and deceitful. It was ONLY inconsequential as a result of mine.

I would have not married her. She decided to stay with me.

@Genieinabottle but how is it deceitful, if you weren't engaged to be married?