I Wasted My Time On Someone

So the person I spoke of when I first posted in this category showed up with his entire family to the place I work and sat down in the dining room to eat 2 nights ago. Of course, it's a public place and they can come and go as they please, but knowing I was there they still stayed. It bothers my boyfriend to no end that they did that. I told him last night that there is nothing I can do about it, but he tells me I should tell him that I'd appreciate if they don't come in there anymore. I think it would be rude to say that. And they probably won't care what I think. Honestly, I don't want to tell them not to come in there because they weren't trying to bother me. What are everyone's thoughts on this?

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GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M

Your bf is wrong on this. You should NEVER tell a paying customer not to come into a place of business. Just see them a customers and nothing more and bf should see it that way too

PoisonLace · 41-45, F

He just can't get past the fact that the person I speak of has a thing for me and they've gotten into it (not physically) in the past about boundaries. He thinks he is "camel's nosing" his way back into my life.

GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M

@PoisonLace: that shows a lot of insecurity on his part. I would find that troubling, a relationship red flag.

PoisonLace · 41-45, F

@GJOFJ3: I made a bad decision a while back, and it made a huge mess. But it was due to the lack of attention I was receiving after my bf got his new job. Of course, a relationship needs maintaining, so you can't just drop it and expect it to pick up after you're settled in a job. But yes, I can admit I went about things wrong, though, there was no outlet for me when it all happened. He wouldn't listen, and now blames me for not telling him how I felt when I actually did.

GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M

@PoisonLace: yes we have a way of doing that

PoisonLace · 41-45, F

@GJOFJ3: One of my biggest pet peeves is being ignored.

GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M

@PoisonLace: well at least now neither one is ignoring you but hardly the kind of attention you want

PoisonLace · 41-45, F

@GJOFJ3: Exactly. But hopefully this miserable existence is not permanent.

GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M

@PoisonLace: it won't be. If bf loves you he will understand. If he doesn't you will find one eho does