Are you in long unhappy marriage?

Can you work it out, can you find solutions?
Do you still trust each other?
Do you still love that person? Do they still love you as well?
Are you ready to make changes to have common ground? Are they on the same page?
If yes, this may be saved, give it all you got.
But put in a timeframe and by the deadline, if there is no improvement, maybe you are just incompatible, and your love is not enough to fix it - in this case you may have to break up even if you love each other.


If the answer is no to any of those, end it.

Together for kids?
Kids are stronger and smarter than you think; on the long run, a clean break with two loving and happy (although separated) parents is better than two miserable, unhappy parents quarreling 24/7 (+this anger will be projected down on the kid(s) and cause negative long term effects whether you realize or not. Many of those may be invisible until too late.

Together for money? Find a way to get a job, then end it.
there is no reason to stay in an unhappy marriage.
You should be able to be content with being together no matter what.
Make it happy OR end it, for the best of all.

*I hope you can save it, but if you can't, drop it and stay strong - if your heart is beating and is capable of love, there will be more chances to succeed at marrying someone for life. If however, you are in an abusive relationship... you just have to survive and get a lawyer to get you out of there. Habits are hard to break and attachment can be nice but when it is for the wrong person, it can get toxic... and many people fall in the attachment trap then wonder why they do not feel loved anymore. Think well about how you really feel. From there, you will get your most accurate answer.

I am and everyone knows it. I'm staying for my kids.

I was married very unhappily to a very abusive man for over 12 years. Now I'm well rid of him and witb a lovely man who makes me happy.

No 34 years and I would marry her again, very happy marriage.. two successful adult children, stable happy home, very active love life and mutual respect.

Been married a long time with good and not so good times but we have stayed together because we are best friends.

I don't think my parents' marriage was totally happy. I think my mother was quite disappointed although , tbf, she could have improved things herself by going back to work. I'm in a much happier marriage than they had.

My folks are 😬 I’m in a happy one though finally.

It’s been eventual, ups and downs. But isn’t that life? 🤷‍♂️. And you?

Nope. Divorced. Remarried last month.

Much, much happier.

Got to find someone first that's willing.

It’s this very thought that scares the crap out of me when I think about marriage 🤷🏻‍♂️

We have had our moments .. though largely overshadowed by our struggles

Not now, but was for the 8 years of my last marriage.

No. I was married 7-8 years and that was long enough.

No. I'm in a happy one.

Long, but happy.

Yes I am.

Kinda. We have been divorced for many many years but the marriage seems to still have it's merits in certain aspects.

yes

No. I relocated my spine around 15 years ago. Feels good.

No

Once, long ago, I was.

yes

Very much so

50 50

Hell no I chose freedom. 😁

Not anymore

Nope! 33 years later and we are still happy. 🙂