CHOOSING ME OVER THE PAIN❤ Finding out my husband was cheating—reaching out to men on gay...

MizzO · 31-35, F

Went through a similar situation. Divorced now. Finding the things that I could have done. All the ways I could have avoided certain things.The signs that I missed or ignored. Those things made me feel empowered. We are not just helpless and at the mercy of other people's intentions for us. There are things we can do and pay attention to to safeguard our hearts from people like this. It also made me have trust issues because I'd you can be with and love someone for that long who lies and hides something so big...can anyone be trusted. But in the end I'm trying to remember to Trust God.

Blondily · F

He should have been open about himself before he made a commitment to you then you would have had the choice to be with him or go you're separate ways. Im so sorry this happened to you but you're tough and will get thru this.💪🏻

Barefooter25 · 46-50, M

I am so sorry to hear that. He should have been open to you about his sexuality instead of sneaking around. Many people have been in committed relationships where the other person revealed him or herself to be LGBT, me included. Best thing for you to do is move on with your life and remain strong.

TexChik · F

Your husband should not have kept his sexuality from you and then snuck around to get what he needed. That was selfish and dangerous behavior. But you are allowed to be happy too. If you are still married, then the dynamics of that relationship have changed. Do you have an open marriage now? Do you want that? Or are you divorced? You certainly have every right to be happy and feel desired and desirable as a woman. All women need that. You are not responsible for the despicable things your spouse does, but only you can pick up the pieces and move on. Glad you are strong. 😉

Gingerbreadspice · F

So your husband is gay and somehow you never had an inclination to his sexuality but think of it like this, if he’s gay and he chose you for your spouse that means you stood out to him, you might have been the exception and the one woman who nearly changed his mind. One day that will give you some comfort.