When is it time to call it quits?

Well tell her the grounds for divorce!🤣

Get dressed up and tell her you'll be back later. Test her reaction to see if she notices or cares.

I chose divorce after saying I needed either an open relationship or I needed an affair. Third option was divorce. She served me two months later. I agreed.

My life has never been better. The divorce was crazy expensive, but happiness doesn’t carry a price.

An unhappy marrage wears down your health and stress is a killer. Havingan an affair is, in my view and experience, potentially seen as an easy solution but may just add to the stress and would not fix the problem. If you have tried everything then its probably time up and go for separation.

Interesting. You state 'I' have more flexibility recently.
Does she feel the same?
Is there anything that might be stressing her out that you're not experiencing?
Also consider age. If she's menopausal then she will be dealing with physical issues that may make sex unappealing/uncomfortable.

Make the appointment and pay for it
Go with or without her

Get out asap. Life is too short.

Depends on whether you want to endure the rest of your life or enjoy the rest of your life.

Well i dont know about an affair. But if my spouse didnt put out i would have to get a divorce.

Sounds like more than sex is broken.

Withholding sex falls under "constructive abandonment" in some states, so I'm told. Marriages are tough, because everybody's threshold is different on everything.

Personally? What you describe? SHE drew the damn line, now you do as you see fit.

An affair can really amp up the drama, I've never felt good about anything extracurricular(not that I've had a ton of experience with it). In no way would I judge you if you stepped out, nor would I judge anyone in your situation; a woman friend of mine has started up an entire new relationship with a younger dude(bedroom is dead). Everyone has to find their own way with this.

Why not just ask her if she minds if you get some action elsewhere since she is no longer interested. Its a very common problem when one partner is no longer sexually attracted to the other or has completely lost their sex drive. Its completely unfair to the other partner that still wants sex. You can have a few friends with benefits (widows maybe) , or just go to Vegas for the weekend.

The more painful but morally superior alternative is to divorce her and move on. Only you can do what is right for you.