Money is hurting my relationship [I Need Advice On Relationships] 3 months ago my bf and I had...

He sounds like he's not thinking of the future. Have a heart to heart talk to him and see what he wants and if he's comfortable with where he is. There is a difference between wanting to get out of there and just simply liking the idea of getting out of there. When you want something, you do. When you like the idea of it, you sit there and say "Yeah, I think that's good" and get happy thinking of it and that's about it

questionWeaver

Men in the 18-32 demographic are the most immature and unambitious we likely have ever seen.

They are setting all kinds of records for unemployment, murders, spousal abuse, crimes and lack of new business starts.

Just to provide context, that your experience is being repeated over and over with men in that demographic. A lot is due to schooling and over parenting at a young age.

DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F

finances is the number one reason people break up. if you are having problems right now hit the road. you are in your twenties you should be enjoying your life. not in a relationship... everyone wants to be in a relationship for some reason. it's overhyped AF.

JohnnyNoir · 56-60, M

Money is often the biggest thing that will make or break a relationship. No matter how good other aspects may be, if you can’t agree there, you might want to reassess things

Oster1 · M

Personally, I don’t see him changing unless something shocks it into him.
Your gut is screaming at you. You may need to make a decision. On note paper, write two columns. Pros and cons and what you can and can’t live with. I seriously think that talking at this stage is unproductive.

@questionWeaver was very correct. Not all and maybe some can change but then again, it may just be an incompatibility between the two of you. Good luck to you. I wish you the best.😊🌷

PrivateHell · M

Set aside ground rules on the money, making rent the very first thing before any other spending, then groceries and utilities. If you both stick to this, you can work through the rest as needed but will at least have a place to stay.

If he can't or won't stick to it, it's time to move on. Because if you think you resent him now, wait until you are either permanently at your mother's, or living on the street because he bankrupted you.

Good luck.

DownTheStreet · 56-60, M

Financial compatibility is vital. These are life choices.

SW-User

Slow and steady progress my friend.

Eclipsed · M

This is always how it is one partner wants somthing the other struggles with like more better sex or money or behaviors or you name it. It's tough.. I know. Really tough at times.

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GoldandRust · 26-30, M

You need money

LifeOnHardMode · 26-30, M

GARBAGE PEOPLE

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