Seeing a guy with trust issues [I Need Relationship Advice]

I've been seeing this guy for about two months. We catch up 1-3 times a week and it's basically as if we are in a relationship at this point, just without the label. He had an ex which gave him some major trust issues. When I say I'm going out with friends he always thinks it's a date or I'm sleeping with someone. I told him I value what we have so I wouldn't risk ruining it by seeing other people. He doesn't believe me, whenever I try and reason to him it just sounds like excuses. Aside from the major trust issues with me seeing other people, he's such a great and genuine person. What do I do?

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Classified · M

This is very bad. The relationship is not truly established, but he already tries to keep you away from your friends because of his issues. If you allow him to do that, then he doesn't need to work on his issue and will just block you from your friends to make himself feel good. This is extremely selfish of him even if he doesn't realise that. If he cannot work that out he's not fit for a relationship.

CheshireCatalyst · 36-40, M

This isn't an insecurity you can change or deal with. It will eat away at everything that makes you who you are until the only friend you have is him.

Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

You live your life. He either trusts you or he doesn’t. It’s not your job to prove to him you’re worth it. It works or it doesn’t.

johntomSWPhd · 36-40

Understand where he is coming from, trust is built over time and you guys are a new date.

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johntomSWPhd · 36-40

@Sheer i,m really glad you guys are doing good.I love the idea of bringing people together in love, so I,m always pro love, pro life in the procreation segment and pro sex when it comes to eroticism. Best of luck to you both.

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KuroNeko · 41-45, F

Set good boundaries. Make it clear to him that its normal for you to have friends and privacy. You should not feel the need to defend yourself all the time or explain what you do. He may not be ok with this, if that's the case then he isn't ready to be with anyone.

Mistypetal · F

@KuroNeko I only have male friends and I think he really struggles with that concept. I have tried explaining my relationship with them but he is always skeptical.

KuroNeko · 41-45, F

@Mistypetal it's hard to be with someone like that, impossible sometimes. It's sad but perhaps you're best out of it.

Platinum · M

Just tell him, unless he starts trusting you, it's over...unless you sort it out now, it will get worse ...

retiredbum · 51-55, M

I get it. Been there, but you are not her. He needs to step out on a limb even if it's a little bit

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