Men - How did and/or do you learn to trust women in romantic relationships?

I can't find any fibre of my being that could trust a woman in a romantic intimate relationship and it's now 8 years + since I left my second ex and have not really had any positive romantic experiences since. I've had some negative ones and after lots of bad outcomes I feel I've switched off from trying anymore.

Any other guys feel similarly?

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Richard65 · M

You sound like you're projecting. Your inability to trust women is actually more about YOUR insecurity about yourself. You fear they might look for another man because you aren't good enough to warrant their loyalty and fidelity to you. You say you can't find any fibre of your being that can trust a woman. What you mean is you can't find any fibre of your being that feels you're worth that trust. It's not the women. It's you.

zonavar68 · 56-60, M

@Richard65 I don't dispute that. I've always suspected that I'm most of the problem when it comes to romantic/intimate/relationship stuff due to my introversion and neuro-divergence. If I sense any potential for connectivity, I immediately switch to 'danger' mode and take all steps necessary to 'block/delete' it from my thinking and physical presence because I feel I'm not worthy of any adult romance/intimacy/love after my two failed prior relationships. It's an automatic response feeding off all the negative experiences to date. I would need to have a woman literally run into me before I'd even be able to find her inside past the 'gateway' into my life in any meaningful way.

Baybreeze · 41-45, F

It's like me, only trusting men😦 When even men themselves here (on a post I made) say 85% of men date or get into relationships for mainly sex, it makes thinking about or ever feeling a true relationship is possible seem hopeless 😞

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