how to not feel angry when a woman rejects me

i've been rejected a lot of times by women in my life who i tried to chat to, interact with...always found socializing with them difficult because i never learned the social skills, like other men did, because i had difficult psychological problems and social problems....and i've never had a relationship and i'm late 40s now...but did have quite a few sex with girls i met in my late teens.

but i've never took rejection easy from women, especially if i really liked her or started to feel interested in her...and she backed off and i never heard from that girl again? that made me feel very angry and disappointed...angry at the female character and how they can just do that to you?....it left me feeling bitter too.....and resenting women for how they treated me when all i wanted was a connection with them??

is there a healthier way to deal with rejection from a woman you started to like?

Top | New | Old

MayorOfCrushtown · M Best Comment

i always looked at it like this......... if she stopped showing interest, it wasnt meant to be, and she was probably doing me a favor, that way i didnt have to waste any more time on someone i was not supposed to be with. everyone who rejected me was clearing the way for the person i ended up with.

durinsBane1983 · 46-50, M

@MayorOfCrushtown thanks for answering again, a good way of looking at it, i make the mistake of dwelling on it.

MayorOfCrushtown · M

@durinsBane1983 thanks for best answer

durinsBane1983 · 46-50, M

@MayorOfCrushtown all the very best.

Ananke · 26-30, F

I don't handle rejection poorly but I do handle criticism poorly. What helped me is 2 things

1) practicing receiving criticism from a trusted partner. For you, find a good friend and practice situations where you are rejected.

2) When you are about to enter into a situation where you might be rejected, brace yourself. Say ok, I might get rejected here, if I am what will I do? How do I want to act differently than normal?

I hope that helps.

FrozenWasteland · 61-69, M

I think there's a big difference between being interested in someone and developing an expectation that they will also be interested in you.

Expressing your interest is like offering a gift. It's up to the receiver what they choose to do with it. It's OK to be disappointed when the gift is not appreciated, that's human, but being bitter or angry is a choice you choose to make -- and maybe not a particularly healthy one.

How you react is a choice. It's within your control. It might be worth considering if there are healthier choices, like seeing what can be learned from the experience and maybe even thinking well of her. The things that made her worth caring about didn't disappear just because she couldn't return your interest. Being bitter or angry is just being hard on you and makes it harder to try again.

Bumbles · 56-60, M

Yes, but you need to recognize the signs of attraction. Never be in a situation where you don’t have the advantage.

Add a comment...