How did you get over losing the love of your life?
How long did it take and how did you cope with the loss? It could be due to a breakup or death.
31-35, F
Mordechai · 31-35, M
It took many years, it was complicated by 3 family deaths so I was full of grief, I didn't fully process it until I confessed my trapped feelings after 7 years. After then I could finally move forward.
When you've truly loved someone you never forget it regardless, she still pops up in my thoughts every now and then.
When you've truly loved someone you never forget it regardless, she still pops up in my thoughts every now and then.
eyeno · M
Spent many months of heavy drinking, I was crushed.
Funny part is when she found out I hooked up again, my friend told me, she went to pieces.
As, Karma did to her what she did to me.
Over ten years later she tried reconnecting multiple times but my mother at the time always picked up the phone and gave her excuses why i wasnt available.
Funny part is when she found out I hooked up again, my friend told me, she went to pieces.
As, Karma did to her what she did to me.
Over ten years later she tried reconnecting multiple times but my mother at the time always picked up the phone and gave her excuses why i wasnt available.
swirlie · 31-35
@hunkalove
Okay, I totally get that. Dealing with someone who suffers from depression is no different than trying to deal with an alcoholic or a cocaine addict, despite the depressed person not being involved with substance abuse. There is absolutely nothing YOU can do to fix a depressed person, nor to stop an alcoholic from drinking, nor to permanently end a cocaine addict's addiction.
If you did not leave after 8 years, you would have ended up going down the same rabbit hole your partner fell into. For the survival of your own mental health, you had no choice but to get out just as you did.
But most important to understand is that it was not YOUR job to fix that person nor to find a way to get them to rise above whatever was causing their acute depression. That was not about you; that was about them. That was their story, it was not your's.
If you could go back in time and turn the clock back with you and attempt to do things differently if given the chance, I can assure you that you'd end up right back here talking to me exactly as we are talking right now about the same thing!
Okay, I totally get that. Dealing with someone who suffers from depression is no different than trying to deal with an alcoholic or a cocaine addict, despite the depressed person not being involved with substance abuse. There is absolutely nothing YOU can do to fix a depressed person, nor to stop an alcoholic from drinking, nor to permanently end a cocaine addict's addiction.
If you did not leave after 8 years, you would have ended up going down the same rabbit hole your partner fell into. For the survival of your own mental health, you had no choice but to get out just as you did.
But most important to understand is that it was not YOUR job to fix that person nor to find a way to get them to rise above whatever was causing their acute depression. That was not about you; that was about them. That was their story, it was not your's.
If you could go back in time and turn the clock back with you and attempt to do things differently if given the chance, I can assure you that you'd end up right back here talking to me exactly as we are talking right now about the same thing!
GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M
It's a complicated process. Part of it is that I ODed on romantic trauma (and just trauma in general) too many times, so now my tolerance is too high. It just doesn't hit the same anymore. It's played out.
It's also recognizing that a lot of those relationships were contrived and that modern love is an ugly game.
It's also recognizing that a lot of those relationships were contrived and that modern love is an ugly game.
MayorOfCrushtown · M
michaela2001 · 70-79
swirlie · 31-35
We're talking about two distinctly different sets of circumstances in your post here.
You're saying it could be due to a relationship breakup or death, neither of which can be compared to each other, nor can a coping mechanism used for one also be applied to the other.
The sadness or depression associated with a relationship breakup is a different brand of 'grief' than what one experiences from a death of someone close, particularly a family member. In fact, a relationship breakup pales in comparison to a death, so both examples that you chose for your question should not have been placed in the same sentence together.
Therefore, you cannot simply ask a blanket question by wanting to know "How did you get over losing the love of your life?" because neither circumstance that you offer in your question is even remotely relevant to the other.
I strongly suggest that you re-write your question with this in mind.
You're saying it could be due to a relationship breakup or death, neither of which can be compared to each other, nor can a coping mechanism used for one also be applied to the other.
The sadness or depression associated with a relationship breakup is a different brand of 'grief' than what one experiences from a death of someone close, particularly a family member. In fact, a relationship breakup pales in comparison to a death, so both examples that you chose for your question should not have been placed in the same sentence together.
Therefore, you cannot simply ask a blanket question by wanting to know "How did you get over losing the love of your life?" because neither circumstance that you offer in your question is even remotely relevant to the other.
I strongly suggest that you re-write your question with this in mind.
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
PerfectionOfTheHeart · 46-50, F
Infamous607 · 51-55, M
@PerfectionOfTheHeart
True, people talk about ..oh you're so courageous...
But what choice do we have. Life goes on with us in it.
True, people talk about ..oh you're so courageous...
But what choice do we have. Life goes on with us in it.
PerfectionOfTheHeart · 46-50, F
@Infamous607 Very true.
Philasefer · M
Djofull · 46-50, M
never got over her
Time usually heals all.
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
pdockal · 56-60, M
Depends on circumstances
Infamous607 · 51-55, M
Death. You don't get over it. You just learn how to fake it.
Ferise1 · 46-50, M
Time heals… but it’s still difficult
Oh yes my friends came closer
Oh yes my friends came closer