How did you get over losing the love of your life?
How long did it take and how did you cope with the loss? It could be due to a breakup or death.
31-35, F
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swirlie · 31-35
@hunkalove
Okay, I totally get that. Dealing with someone who suffers from depression is no different than trying to deal with an alcoholic or a cocaine addict, despite the depressed person not being involved with substance abuse. There is absolutely nothing YOU can do to fix a depressed person, nor to stop an alcoholic from drinking, nor to permanently end a cocaine addict's addiction.
If you did not leave after 8 years, you would have ended up going down the same rabbit hole your partner fell into. For the survival of your own mental health, you had no choice but to get out just as you did.
But most important to understand is that it was not YOUR job to fix that person nor to find a way to get them to rise above whatever was causing their acute depression. That was not about you; that was about them. That was their story, it was not your's.
If you could go back in time and turn the clock back with you and attempt to do things differently if given the chance, I can assure you that you'd end up right back here talking to me exactly as we are talking right now about the same thing!
Okay, I totally get that. Dealing with someone who suffers from depression is no different than trying to deal with an alcoholic or a cocaine addict, despite the depressed person not being involved with substance abuse. There is absolutely nothing YOU can do to fix a depressed person, nor to stop an alcoholic from drinking, nor to permanently end a cocaine addict's addiction.
If you did not leave after 8 years, you would have ended up going down the same rabbit hole your partner fell into. For the survival of your own mental health, you had no choice but to get out just as you did.
But most important to understand is that it was not YOUR job to fix that person nor to find a way to get them to rise above whatever was causing their acute depression. That was not about you; that was about them. That was their story, it was not your's.
If you could go back in time and turn the clock back with you and attempt to do things differently if given the chance, I can assure you that you'd end up right back here talking to me exactly as we are talking right now about the same thing!