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Recently had this discussion and I'm curious......I want to know what the majority think.
Do you think that a woman and a man can have a platonic relationship?
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FreeSpirit1 · 51-55, F
I do, But I'm not married, having a Husband might make it....difficult
Stephie · 22-25, F
It is indeed possible. As long as you set the record straight and let those men (or women) know that there will be no hanky panky, not now and not in the future, then there is absolutely no problem.

As soon as the one or the other is not playing the game anymore, it is time to sever that friendship. I make it clear from the start and until now, it works fine.

You just have to set boundaries and not tolerate any deviation from them.
Feuerstern · 51-55, M
From the male perspective? No. Man do not enjoy being banished to the "Friend zone"
From the female perspective? Yes
TexChik · F
Unfortunately, the majority of married people have precisely that after the kids are a few years old. I think it would be difficult if they were both hetero.
katydidnt · 61-69, F
Oh, I do hope almost everyone answers Yes to this question. Just because half the population includes men with whom I and my wedding vows might tumble is no reason to shut out the whole lot. So irrational--depriving myself of another’s worldview, another awakening to additional aspects of a shared interest, reasons I should reconsider my own positions, and a friendship, unrealized.
carpediem · M
@katydidnt I think most people would say yes. I have one such relationship.
JustNik · 51-55, F
Yes. I had as many male friends as female prior to marriage and often found the males easier to be around. They were always more straightforward. I could definitely see the other two lanes, though. The ones who were only friendly while there might be a hope for more and the ones who couldn’t see you if they didn’t want you. Still, pretty straightforward there as well. lol
Starcrossed · 46-50, F
Absolutely.
scorpiolovedeep · 51-55, M
Yes,they can.

Boundaries , expectactions if any have to be set, upfront.
scorpiolovedeep · 51-55, M
Boundaries are essential as it a non romantic, non sexual relationship.


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@scorpiolovedeep

Thats a given , because we are talking about A platonic relationship .. No .

I don't have to speak boundaries , because it's just understood . If life happens ,, it happens for a reason , my friendships aren't based around boundaries but openness and understanding . .

Creating unnecessary boundaries ,just creates the need to break them .
scorpiolovedeep · 51-55, M
Ok, thought sharing and views on life, living etc can be openly shared.


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Joker50 · 56-60, M
Yes but he's always holding out hope to f*** her Imo
RubySoo · 56-60, F
Of course! But....partners are not always happy with those type of friendships sadly.
skmokisses · 51-55, F
@RubySoo Indeed not. The insecurities come creeping in.
deadgerbil · 26-30, M
Yes. People who don't think it's possible usually are just imposing their own limitations on others
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GerOttman · 70-79, M
only until she takes her bra off...
GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M
Usually? Nope. Only if there is no sexual attraction.
GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M
@Kuronekko Likewise! One of my detractors on here derisively calls me a wizard. I soon aspire to go to Hogwarts near you to learn the Enochian Mysteries of Mr. John Dee!
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GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M
@Kuronekko Much obliged, madam.
WandererTony · 56-60, M
Yes they can. I had one in my teens. It lasted for 2 decades. I still cherish those memories. The best friendship I ever had perhaps.
in10RjFox · M
Online relationships are platonic and there are many with online relationships for long and most never get to meet in life...
Kuronekko · 46-50, F
I can't say that it's ever worked out for me. They always wanted more, then its ended up in some kinda stalker situation.
akindheart · 70-79, F
well i think so but it is hard when the other party has other ideas.
skmokisses · 51-55, F
@akindheart Agreed, it has to be mutual ...otherwise it won't work.
tobynshorty · 51-55, F
Oh yes! My best friend and I are only platonic and it can never be anything more.
SW-User
Many married men will tell you it's absolutely possible, just ask their wife
Northwest · M
Yes, but only if neither of them had an attraction to each other.
HellsBelle · F
No. I hate that I say no...but for real, no.
TigerLili · 51-55, F
Yes I do. I have in the past
SW-User
Yes I think so
Yes/no. It takes the right people. I've got female friends I don't see often that I've known for years, some are attractive some aren't. All 100% platonic. Do we hang out regularly? No, I still consider them friends though
itsok · 31-35, F
WindTherapy · 61-69, M
Can they? Yes. Does it happen often? I don't know, but I suspect it is somewhat rare. I think it takes two people in the exact same mindset to pull it off.
Maturebate · 70-79, M
Of course they can. Think work colleagues, flat mates, ,etc. Sex does not have to be the only thing that defines a MF relationship.
HobNoblin · 36-40, M
It depends. Are these people into booze and night clubs or are they into books and philosophy?
Dolimyte · 41-45, M
Obviously they can. Not everyone can manage it, but it's definitely possible.
Arantxa · F
Yes , I want to believe they can
You mean friendship ?
skmokisses · 51-55, F
@Arantxa yes, just friends
If they're both capable of caring about the person and not the attraction, yes.
SW-User
It is very possible.

I had one for almost ten years.
skmokisses · 51-55, F
@SW-User I have had one going on 30 years .... and for some reason people have a hard time understanding it.
SW-User
@skmokisses Well...I have found, in my life, that everybody has something they do not understand...and I can't drive myself crazy trying to change that.
Thrust · 56-60, M
Yes. It helps if at least one is married. Then platonic is your only choice
Degbeme · 70-79, M
I guess, I really don`t know.
Ambroseguy80 · 56-60, M
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Definitely the holy father and the nuns do all the time
Greenry · 46-50, M
They can if they weren’t married. It gets complicated otherwise
Roadsterrider · 56-60, M
I think it is possible, but it is difficult to remain platonic.
Ambroseguy80 · 56-60, M
Of course they can - if that’s what both want.
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
Sure. Of course. It happens all the time.
Yes of course. I often prefer my male friendships.
DaddyThomas · 46-50, M
Yeah I’ve many platonic relationships with women
Strongtea · 22-25, M
Yes, I’m best friends with girls.
Man48 · 46-50, M
Yes Ofcourse, happens all around
Jksooner · 46-50, M
If neither is attracted to the other.
JackDaniels · 51-55, M
I had a couple with coworkers.
Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M
Ha! It's called a marriage!
carpediem · M
Yes absolutely.
Oneofthestormboys · 56-60, M
Yes of course. Why not?

 
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