Divorce etiquette? I have almost all of the photos that were ever taken during my marriage,...

I gave all that back to my ex that was from his childhood, and had a lot. We were married 16 years.

I wanted none of it. If you don't want to give back to him, can give back to his mother if she's still around.

Edit to add. Can keep for safekeeping for your kids

DoubleRings · 51-55, F

A lot of men aren’t attached to things like that I think. When my parents died my brothers didn’t want any of that either from my parents belongings. I have their wedding albums all the children’s pics and every single important document of our family history. I found this odd bc when my mom died (first) one of my brothers refused to let my father get rid of anything bc he himself was too attached to her belongings. My dad wanted them gone bc it hurt him to look at them. I don’t get it but I think many men don’t care about those things.

PicturesOfABetterTomorrow · 41-45, M

Depends on the person. Some people when a relationship ends make a hard break on everything. Sometimes they regret it later and wish they kept some important things.

As others said. Anything you don't want to keep yourself but they might want later. See if there is a neutral friend or family member you can leave them with.

Sometimes people react one way when emotions run high but respond differently later when they have some emotional distance from the situation.

Adrift · 61-69, F

I would let my kids go through any pictures or memorabilia that they may want and put the rest in a box and store it. Eventually if he doesn't seem to want them, you could decide weather or not you want to just throw them away.
I have found through cleaning out my parents house that most of this stuff was kept for us.
Stuff we didnt want like our doodles and report cards, we ended up just throwing away.

Gibbon · 70-79, M

I don't know what to say. My 2nd wife wiped out everything of my past. Pictures documents and all in her own stealth way. She even tossed a Parcheesi game I inherited from my grandmother which we played together when I was a kid. Discovering that really began the removing of the key stone.

You are questioning which already makes you a better woman than her.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

Once asked my girlfriends mother to store my trunk at their garage. Later after we broke up I asked my girlfriend just for my drawing albums back out of the trunk.

She not only kept my albums yet the whole trunk with my military gear and all.

fun4us2b · M

Pass them to a neutral party if possible....

xbandoleerx · 56-60, M

Be who you are & do what you feel is the correct thing to do!
I feel our behaviors should be admirable when viewed, by us as well as others, 5 or 10 years down the line.
This reflects on one’s upbringing, training and standards of values one carries within.
If it were me, I would have made a duplicate set and handed over.

2ndtimeguy · 61-69, M

I kept pictures of our daughter only tore up all our family pics except one that was in a frame years later gave that pic and our wedding album to my daughter. I told her its yours to do as you wish!

Beaker4444 · 46-50, M

I'll soon be joining that club. Her and I have stayed on good enough terms to discuss those types of things so far. I'm hoping that you and yours are as well.

Blackie · 51-55, M

If the wedding pictures went "Missing" could something happen in court? and do most women want their wedding pictures after a 28 yr marriage?

Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F

If he's not asking, he doesn't care enough. Unless you know for fact he's too stressed/busy to be thinking about it in the first place?

Bowenw · 61-69, M

I don't believe there are any rules. If you are on speaking terms I suggest you simply ask him if he wants any of it.

novaguy2u · 70-79, M

I'm sorry to hear that. I went through a similar experience. It was pretty gutting, after 47 years of marriage.

Nunki · 31-35, F

Some people don't care about pics, or maybe it's too painful for him

fanuc2013 · 51-55, F

What about the nudes?

pripyatamusementpark

This is so sad