@Journaling4Me Your husband was the one who started it though. Cheating on a woman fresh post partum is really messed up, even worse with your best friend, so I don’t judge you 🤷‍♀

@Journaling4Me You're assuming that divorce is the same as not wanting to make the effort.

Another way of looking at it, is that the person would be giving their kid(s) a chance to better control their destiny.

It's Monday morning quarterbacking now, but you raised your kids in the same environment that produced two kids for you, before you were out of your teen years, a hysterectomy, STDs, and multiple physical and emotional affairs.

And your kids did the same thing you did, and you're now raising their kids.

I wish you all the luck, but there are other choices that may offer kids better options.

@BrandNewMan Is being on SWs considered cheating?

@Bleak Borderline to yes .. I was not open w my spouse about it .. some flirty, personal messages, etc . Its not sex, no, and not as big a breach as things she did .. but some here would class it as such and I can see their case.

@Selah should have used K.Y gel.

@yestestvennaya there's also a combination of depression and being in an utterly sexless relationship