I'm close to giving up on searching for a partner.

It's not that I am actively searching for one. It'd be easy to find just any girl out there if I were to settle, swipe left (or right, i dont know), chat someone up, heck maybe even meet someone irl. But you know... things are getting more difficult as you get older. All of a sudden nearly everyone has a partner, so now the only ones who are single are the sluts and the exceedingly rare gems of this earth. I'm sure that in a few years people my age will have broken up with their partners and there will be a new steady trickle of broken people around. That just doesn't interest me. I feel like little Martin's hopes and dreams are slowly fading into the noise of the world. However, it's my ship and I am the captain, so if the ship goes down I'm going down with it, that is for certain... just venting

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SW-User

Martin, you don't have to give up the search for a partner if that is indeed something you want for yourself in your future. You don't also have to look actively because it will low key (or otherwise) turn into desperation and you will emit it somehow.
Just let it be. Live your life and let it come in your life when its ready to come.

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

@SW-User Everyone emits desperation in one form or another... And I already am desperate, haven't you noticed? 🤔 It's like I'm living in a shoe-box just peeking out at the world through a little hole. That doesn't mean I will settle though, i know what I need. And even if you search for them passively, you're still searching because you have hope someone will come around. My remaining hope is evaporating.

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ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

Yeah i defintely feel that. But at the same time we're still young so there's still so much room left for so much to happen.. hard to picture that though when you've never got to experience anything other than everything falling apart 😕

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

@ChiefJustWalks Yeah you're not wrong, also I used to say that when I was 16, "I'm still young, someday I'll just meet someone and it will click like it did the first time". I would never have thought it'd take 8+ years for that moment to come, now I'm starting to think that it won't come at all. Even the girls I used to know on this site have changed so much 🤣 Many of them used to be virgins when I joined but now they're talking about their friends with benefits and boyfriends, it's somewhat demoralising as it's a reminder of the topic of the post.