What is it like to be married 1/2/5/10/20/50 years?

I've never been married (even though I've had two long term relationships) so cannot conceptualise what being part of a married couple is like. Esp since I'm long-term single now since 2018.

I just on a whim saw something about a Buffy (Sarah Michelle Geller) 'reboot'. She's been married to the same guy for over 20 years. She's 47, I'm 56.

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TexChik · F

Almost 20 years. The thing is, most people think they can relax, be fat, or look gross because they are married now. That is the fast track to misery. Marriage requires more effort, both personally and as a couple, than dating ever did. I want to be the very best version of myself at all times. I stay fit and healthy, and I do everything possible to look and dress in ways that please my husband. Publicly, I am his loving and caring wife and the mother of his children. Privately, I am a terror under the sheets, and he has to be in great physical shape to survive the night in my bed! He, of course, does not want to be outdone...so he brings his A-game to bed with him! 😉

He is the love of my life, and our marriage is the culmination of both of us taking good care of it. Neither of us wants to lose that.

It was worth the trouble.