Do you like hugs or kisses more?
Real hugs are more intimate/better than kisses.
Kisses get all the hype and by a large margin are treated as a bigger sign of intimacy/love than hugs. However, I feel like I'm never closer to a person than when we have a real, good hug (not one of these garbage salutation hugs). Kisses are either flippant or done out of lust. Hugs have more meaning behind them and show a person you care. What's more romantic a hug or a kiss? (On mobile so formatting is awful) First of all, what does a kiss even do? I don't feel better or loved from it in any way. It's simply just shoving lips together to show off to everyone you both like eachother and nothing else. Meanwhile hugs actually feel nice and comforting and even though like kisses it dosent mean much else it at least feels nice. Second of all it is convieniant in public with your GF, BF or whatever you prefer because you have to take your mask off to kiss but can hug anytime. Finally if you want to go no homo with the boys/girls but want to say goodbye a quick hug is acceptable compared to a kiss. TL;DR hugs are better Because I had a third date with a really cool girl and at the end she gave me a little half handed, one arm hug. She said, "I'm not very affectionate, you'll get used to it". No, I won't, I'm a hugger and a holder type of man. I'm secretly a big softie and shit man. I understand not wanting to be touching 24/7, neither do I. But random hugs and kisses, yea, that's just me. But if you're not affectionate, why not? What type of affection do you prefer (kisses, sex, cuddles, sexual touching, hugs, and/or etc) and why!? Of course I've hugged people before, but I've never actually felt anything other than the physical sensation of touching an object.It's my understanding from reading about oxytocin that there is supposed to be some sort of positive physical sensation, so I suspect that I'm simply missing something. Even hugging the girl i loved (truth be told I have no idea what love is, I inferred it from taking into consideration factors like how often I thought of her and how much I wanted to be with her). I've tried high purity mdma multiple times from multiple sources after reading about all the sensations people say they experience, but I don't seem to experience anything except some sort of a mood uplift, and at a higher dose running my mouth and throwing up. What am I missing? Hugs feel better than a kiss, thats all. Hugs has a non sexual sensation to it, and it's a lot more accessible. You're able to hug pretty much anyone and it wouldn't be that weird(to a certain extent). But a kiss is just awkward, and really can only be done with people you're in a relationship with. Hugs solve loneliness and depression, it's like a drug in the sense that you can get addicted to it. If someone you love is feeling down, a hug is the right answer, not a hug. Just not a second ago. I had just had a discussion with a friend of mine that me hugging and kissing my best girl friends was "odd" and "weird". As if you were to "Grip shake" and back pat your best man. Even if it was nothing much as a simple 2-second hug. I was star-struck. because I thought it was okay to do so. For me, I was brought up to kiss and hug my female friends. My mother is the one who taught me to do so. I questioned her why one day. And she said that that small bit of physical affection makes the friendship that much better. That it's to show to the exact people you show that affection to, understand that you mean something to them. Does it make me weird? Is what I'm doing unusual. I see no wrong. If the friends I do it to don't mind, they themselves seem to be chill about it? Do you like kissing? I have seen a lot of people saying they hate kissing? So I am wondering how many people like it and how many don’t for those of you who don’t why not? I don't know if it's an INFJ exclusive thing, but I find more affection and love into hugs. I think it's a family thing, because I associate hugs with happiness, warmth and consolation. I feel I connect with the person I hug smh. Rather, I used (and use) kisses for greeting people or salute them, more impersonal.
This is a problem because my boyfriend (INTJ) loves to kiss me, but I don't feel loved by that and I tend to tell him that I need affection when I already have it.
Anybody else feel the same? A hug is much more romantically deeper and intimate than a kiss.
I find hugs way, way more intimate than any kiss. Kisses are one part of your face touching another person's face. Hugs are tangling youself together with that person, squeezing the life out of them because you care about them. I'd throw around a kiss or two but no way in hell are you hugging me unless i wanna hug you. And that means either your my gf or you're a puppy. Do you and your partner hug and lovingly touch every day?
I know this might sound like a silly question but for those of you that have been married 10+ years - do you and your partner hug and love on each other every day?
I adore my family and husband and I knew when I married him that he wasn’t the most affectionate person. I was okay with that at the time but over the past few years I have been finding myself desperately wanting a hug or kiss from him and it always feels so forced.
We have a good relationship (other that this), respect and trust each other.
I have shared how I feel with him multiple times and it will get better for a week or two after the talk and then back to nothing. He won’t go to therapy with me and won’t read the books I recommend that put even better words to how I’m feeling.
I’m at a loss. Am I being unrealistic? Is there anything else I can try? Mama just wants a hug. Guys, do you genuinely like kissing, or do you just do it because girls like it so much, and it could lead to foreplay? If so, what do you like about it? I really wish it were more acceptable for men to hug each other.
I am a grown man and I am a big hairy dude but I am also pretty depressed. I wish I could hug my homies. I don't get hugged very often these days. My friend gave me a hug today after I helped them move! I feel a little better now. Guys do you like to be comforted with hugs and kisses when you are crying? Why or why not?
Kisses get all the hype and by a large margin are treated as a bigger sign of intimacy/love than hugs. However, I feel like I'm never closer to a person than when we have a real, good hug (not one of these garbage salutation hugs). Kisses are either flippant or done out of lust. Hugs have more meaning behind them and show a person you care. What's more romantic a hug or a kiss? (On mobile so formatting is awful) First of all, what does a kiss even do? I don't feel better or loved from it in any way. It's simply just shoving lips together to show off to everyone you both like eachother and nothing else. Meanwhile hugs actually feel nice and comforting and even though like kisses it dosent mean much else it at least feels nice. Second of all it is convieniant in public with your GF, BF or whatever you prefer because you have to take your mask off to kiss but can hug anytime. Finally if you want to go no homo with the boys/girls but want to say goodbye a quick hug is acceptable compared to a kiss. TL;DR hugs are better Because I had a third date with a really cool girl and at the end she gave me a little half handed, one arm hug. She said, "I'm not very affectionate, you'll get used to it". No, I won't, I'm a hugger and a holder type of man. I'm secretly a big softie and shit man. I understand not wanting to be touching 24/7, neither do I. But random hugs and kisses, yea, that's just me. But if you're not affectionate, why not? What type of affection do you prefer (kisses, sex, cuddles, sexual touching, hugs, and/or etc) and why!? Of course I've hugged people before, but I've never actually felt anything other than the physical sensation of touching an object.It's my understanding from reading about oxytocin that there is supposed to be some sort of positive physical sensation, so I suspect that I'm simply missing something. Even hugging the girl i loved (truth be told I have no idea what love is, I inferred it from taking into consideration factors like how often I thought of her and how much I wanted to be with her). I've tried high purity mdma multiple times from multiple sources after reading about all the sensations people say they experience, but I don't seem to experience anything except some sort of a mood uplift, and at a higher dose running my mouth and throwing up. What am I missing? Hugs feel better than a kiss, thats all. Hugs has a non sexual sensation to it, and it's a lot more accessible. You're able to hug pretty much anyone and it wouldn't be that weird(to a certain extent). But a kiss is just awkward, and really can only be done with people you're in a relationship with. Hugs solve loneliness and depression, it's like a drug in the sense that you can get addicted to it. If someone you love is feeling down, a hug is the right answer, not a hug. Just not a second ago. I had just had a discussion with a friend of mine that me hugging and kissing my best girl friends was "odd" and "weird". As if you were to "Grip shake" and back pat your best man. Even if it was nothing much as a simple 2-second hug. I was star-struck. because I thought it was okay to do so. For me, I was brought up to kiss and hug my female friends. My mother is the one who taught me to do so. I questioned her why one day. And she said that that small bit of physical affection makes the friendship that much better. That it's to show to the exact people you show that affection to, understand that you mean something to them. Does it make me weird? Is what I'm doing unusual. I see no wrong. If the friends I do it to don't mind, they themselves seem to be chill about it? Do you like kissing? I have seen a lot of people saying they hate kissing? So I am wondering how many people like it and how many don’t for those of you who don’t why not? I don't know if it's an INFJ exclusive thing, but I find more affection and love into hugs. I think it's a family thing, because I associate hugs with happiness, warmth and consolation. I feel I connect with the person I hug smh. Rather, I used (and use) kisses for greeting people or salute them, more impersonal.
This is a problem because my boyfriend (INTJ) loves to kiss me, but I don't feel loved by that and I tend to tell him that I need affection when I already have it.
Anybody else feel the same? A hug is much more romantically deeper and intimate than a kiss.
I find hugs way, way more intimate than any kiss. Kisses are one part of your face touching another person's face. Hugs are tangling youself together with that person, squeezing the life out of them because you care about them. I'd throw around a kiss or two but no way in hell are you hugging me unless i wanna hug you. And that means either your my gf or you're a puppy. Do you and your partner hug and lovingly touch every day?
I know this might sound like a silly question but for those of you that have been married 10+ years - do you and your partner hug and love on each other every day?
I adore my family and husband and I knew when I married him that he wasn’t the most affectionate person. I was okay with that at the time but over the past few years I have been finding myself desperately wanting a hug or kiss from him and it always feels so forced.
We have a good relationship (other that this), respect and trust each other.
I have shared how I feel with him multiple times and it will get better for a week or two after the talk and then back to nothing. He won’t go to therapy with me and won’t read the books I recommend that put even better words to how I’m feeling.
I’m at a loss. Am I being unrealistic? Is there anything else I can try? Mama just wants a hug. Guys, do you genuinely like kissing, or do you just do it because girls like it so much, and it could lead to foreplay? If so, what do you like about it? I really wish it were more acceptable for men to hug each other.
I am a grown man and I am a big hairy dude but I am also pretty depressed. I wish I could hug my homies. I don't get hugged very often these days. My friend gave me a hug today after I helped them move! I feel a little better now. Guys do you like to be comforted with hugs and kisses when you are crying? Why or why not?
