I Am Married I know it'll probably sounds ridiculous, but I hate the pedestal my husband puts...

SW-User

You're taking him and his will to keep things simple for granted. Shame! Willing to live a drama-free life is not same as lacking substance. And you pretty much making a mockery of it publicly.

Ash93 · 51-55, M

If you get mad whenever he disagrees with you, over time it makes sense that he would just stop disagreeing with you. He wants you to be happy and he wants to avoid fights. If you want him to express himself more, you might find ways to let him do that without having to pay the cost of your ire. If you showed interest rather than irritation at his opinions, you would likely hear them more often.

SW-User

It seems like you're bored and blaming your husband for it.

Mindful · 56-60, F

I used to be married to a man like Trump. Plenty of backbone. Too much. Narcissistic. Literally said “I’m always right.”Believe me, an asshole is an asshole. in a 24/7 relationship he will resort to name calling when the argument are not based on sufficient substance/ nor facts is NOT a turn on. It’s becomes a circle of lies because they can’t accept that they are wrong. Strength is beautiful if it’s based on truth. Your husband is honest about his love for you. YOU bring him peace. Arguing doesn’t matter! Jump on here if you need an argument.

SW-User

I can understand how passivity can begin to lose allure.

SW-User

Sounds like a weak man to me. Self esteem issues I would imagine.

Twinksy · 56-60, F

You should really try to appreciate it. Imagine having someone who always disagrees with you? (I can relate to that one). Sometimes I long for mine to believe in "happy wife, happy life". Perhaps if you try to imagine your life without him in it, you could start to realise and appreciate what you have? It doesn't sound too bad to me.

aaaabbbb

The reality is that is avoiding conflict at home, not sure if you're home maker or also have a 2nd job outside. There is enough bulshit a man has to deal with outside at work, vwry few are either willing to tolerate that at home we need peace, not sure what he does for living and how his work conditions are.

Instead of fighting he decided to choose the other options. In all honesty, had he choosen the other option you would not habe been happy either as then you would have complained about him being too demanding and arguing about everything...it is ZERO or ONE (black or white), it is rare to find 0.5 or grey, for most men.

I saw this through out college and work life. Women who went after guys who were outgoing, adventrous and partying most being divorced for two reasons as work and family life started with 5 and 10 yrs people changed and same women complained about him being either couch potato not doing enough to help or being passive.

And same goes for men, a man would say i married this sassy, full of energy or passive girl and after kids or as time as gone by she has changed and I don't even recognize a person who she is.

This is called growing apart as some grow together and some grow apart.

SW-User

I understand what you're saying, this used to be a big put-off for me when dating men.

SW-User

you may want to read this blog post https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/an-open-letter-to-the-girl-who-let-the-nice-guy-go/589089?utm_campaign=pubexchange_facebook&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=huffingtonpost.com

Milkylady

would you be happy if your husband hurts you and make your life hard? you will be miserable then. appreciate that easy going made and his love or he will find another woman who could give him that appreciation.

Nighttalker · 56-60, M

You’ll never be happy with anyone, until you’re happy with yourself. If your husband acted differently, you’d be complaining about that as well. Get happy with yourself. It’ll be a whole other world for you!

aradia11 · 61-69, F

We should trade for a week!
Mine can be the opposite.