I Am Married

I know it'll probably sounds ridiculous, but I hate the pedestal my husband puts me upon. Don't get me wrong, I do appreciate the care and love he shows me, but I think he goes too far.

He gives in to me constantly and won't defend his position on matters. It's like the man has nothing he's passionate about, nothing he's willing to defend. It's always "happy wife, happy life", and that drives me crazy.

It feels like he's lost his personality, there's nothing intriguing or interesting about him when he's constantly so accommodating and accepting.

He refuses to quarrel with me, usually giving in to what I want, even if I can tell he doesn't agree. He says he does these things because he doesn't want to make me mad.

I'm sure that some will probably read this and think "So what's the problem?".

The problem I seem to have is the man I married now lacks substance. The individual, the man, I fell in love with is gone, and I'm left a person who is devoid of anything intriguing or interesting.

I have tried to talk to him about this, but I can't seem to make him understand. He thinks he's the same as he's ever been, but he's not. Not at all.

He's not "himself", or at least, he's not the man I couldn't stay away from all those years ago. Now he seems like a "yes" man without any backbone.