I Am Married But Lonely

Being married has a dark side. One knows the flaws of the other. One knows the other's weak spots, and one knows what will break the other.

He knows what makes me cry. He knows what will push me to the edge. So he does it. He pushes and watches me cry in pain as he heartlessly lays there and goes to sleep. He says he loves me ...

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har7070 · 51-55, M

@dewkissedrose: are you sure he does it knowingly and on purpose?
My wife often tells me the same thing - that I know what drives her crazy and I keep doing it.
But my problem is that I'm acting naturally, I have no intent to hurt her, at that moment I simply don't have time to reflect back and analyze my own actions and words.
I understand it doesn't help you, but does it make sense?

Dewkissedrose · 46-50, F

Actually, yes. He does things out of spite. He will admit that.

har7070 · 51-55, M

@dewkissedrose: do you know what prompts it? Inner cruelty or a desire for a revenge for something?

Dewkissedrose · 46-50, F

He just gets so mad he want to tick me off more. He will tell me he wants to work things out but then continue the spitefulness. I told him I refuse to work things out if he cannot act like he cares about me instead of trying to bug me.