Love died. What's next.

I've been married for years. Had kids all whats generally expected. I was content.
I ended up in hospital and since I came home it seems my marriage is in need of hospitalisation.
She barely talks to me and closeness is gone. My wife decided that I am not worthy of being loved or appreciated.
I'm trapped in a hell. I think was it all worth it? If the shoe was on her foot she would be very hurt and feel abandoned and suddenly hated. I did nothing to deserve that. I wish I could change things but how...
she barely speaks to me and doesn't listen. I feel so unhappy and alone.

This page is a permanent link to the reply below and its nested replies. See all post replies »

PatientlyWaiting25 · 46-50, F

Sorry about this, it's very upsetting and it seems so many people have marriages like yours. Maybe you need to go back to basics and date each other? Take her somewhere she needs to dress up and you can remind her what you once had.

IronHamster · 56-60, M

@PatientlyWaiting25 It might be better if they schedule a romantic weekend trip with the understanding that if they're not mutually in love by Sunday evening that they'll go their separate ways.

PatientlyWaiting25 · 46-50, F

@IronHamster I think sometimes things take longer than that and work to sort out. It seems very defeatist to give up after a weekend, so many things could affect things, menopause, stress and depression, feeling burnt out especially if caring for a sick partner.

IronHamster · 56-60, M

@PatientlyWaiting25 Maybe. Words are cheap. When someone shows me who they are, I believe them.