I Am Married But Lonely

the wife spends so much energy criticizing me rather than cultivating our relationship. I know I'm not perfect, but she takes it to a new level. Then last month a new girl at work catches my attention, and vice versa - all of a sudden I remember how it felt to be young and painfully stressed out about whether a girl will say 'yes' to a first date.

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SW-User

Before you even consider asking the other woman out figure out what you want to do with your marriage. Either end it or work on it but don't start another relationship before the first one is 100% over you will just end up hurting everyone including yourself.

Stillsittinghere · 51-55, M

That is very dangerous advice!! Never leave a spouse for someone else without having an idea if the other person if even interested! What if he leaves and the girl wants nothing to do with the guy?! The best thing to do if you are looking is make sure you and the other girl are compatible and like each other. Just don’t go into the new relationship without being completely open and honest about your marriage. Make sure she knows you are married and there are no garauntees so you don’t end up hurting her if she isn’t what you were looking for. If she is, don’t string her along with falsehope make your desire to leave your wife known and make it happen or cut the new girl loose before you make a commitment you can’t keep. @SW-User