I Am Married But Lonely

@LyricalOne why work on it? once the kids leave home and it is just the two of us we won't have a thing to say to each other all day. not sure that is something worth saving, especially considering all the disappointment i've been for her and all the resentment she's instilled in me.

@vorpido Then have the decency and maturity to end it before starting another relationship. Something those kids are far more likely to respect.

@LyricalOne I have always been decent and mature, and level headed as well. I've put up with her for the kids' sake. She probably feels the same about me. Also, I didn't say I was going to ask out the girl from work, I only said she brought back memories from ages ago when I see her at work. I needed to process these feelings, and sharing them on this site helps me think it through. Will I ask her out??? I can't promise that I won't. But I am trying to sort out my feelings (& my family's feelings too) before doing anything.

@vorpido Let your conscience, the respect of your kids, and your self respect be your guide.

Ironically putting up with her for your kids’ sake probably did them no favors as all you did was model an unhappy marriage for them. My parents did that and the primary feeling I was left with was guilt that my father sacrificed his happiness for me and sadness that neither of them felt marital love.