I Am Married But Lonely

It’s strange because things have gotten better, but I still feel a distance between us. Like I put up a wall to protect myself and I still won’t open up to her fully again. She hurt me too much and I’m afraid it could happen again.

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ANewCovenant · 56-60, M

The other side of the coin is that if you remain closed to her, she may hurt you again out of her own desperation. That distance you still feel between you, may be her hoping and waiting for you to set her free from guilt. Grace and mercy means extending yourself into vulnerability for the good of the relationship. It's addressing the part of the marriage vows that say, for better OR FOR WORSE. Set her free and you may end up with a greater marriage than you ever imagined.