I Am Married But Lonely

It’s strange because things have gotten better, but I still feel a distance between us. Like I put up a wall to protect myself and I still won’t open up to her fully again. She hurt me too much and I’m afraid it could happen again.

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DefiantHeart

Until you feel it's safe, keep that wall up.

Oside77 · 46-50, M

@DefiantHeart I wonder though if it keeps things from getting better faster...

DefiantHeart

@Oside77 That's all under your control. But if she's making a change and trying, if you love her, you need to change too. But if your heart isn't in it to trust her, you need to guard yourself from getting hurt any further.

Oside77 · 46-50, M

@DefiantHeart I don’t feel safe yet. It’s been a long time.

DefiantHeart

@Oside77 That's very normal. Once you've been hurt, and trust gets broken, it takes time to build the trust again.