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isnt it considered?

as cheating if your man secretly views graphic photos of women (his fantasies) and has subscription on these profiles?? Aren't you contented with your girls? why do you need to do this? whenever you arent with your girl you causally search for these womens profile and probably jerk off on their butt naked photos! you are all disgusting.
I dunno. I can't picture having a wife and then going to look at other women when I have committed to her

The only thing I imagine that might produce such urges to seek other women is if she gave me a headache and she was so unavailable an inattentive to my sexual needs I would seek other women because she simply isn't enough and is kinda dull to either the needs or just doesn't care 🤷🏾‍♂️

But if she's not like that, I can't picture it being anything besides some ungratefulness and taking her for granted
Sadmum09 · 26-30, F
@sexyjigsaw I agree. what an ungrateful twat. secretly having kink with other girls and paying for a photo is beyond disgusting.
@Sadmum09 that is unacceptable. If it ain't his woman, he stays back 😪
Not even a look
Kodel · 26-30, M
It seems like most of the comments say what I was already thinking, but I'll add my 2c.
It's not very hard to keep a man content. If you're not sure if you are, just ask him. Same goes for men between women. Instead of being passive aggressive and hoping he'll pick up the message, just sit him down and calmly explain how you feel he's slacking. Even if it's something he might perceive as trivial, try to convey why it matters to you rather than trying to overrule or dismiss him. If you explain why it matters to you, even if he doesn't understand, he'll empathise and try to work on it.
I see a lot of women complaining that their partners are useless or disgusting or something of that nature, however when you dig deep enough, it seems to boil down to lack of communication or effort. I'm definitely not making an accusation that this is the case in this matter. It's entirely possible that you are fulfilling his needs intimately and he is just a bit on the nymphomania side. However I feel that accountability is important in all things. When something is wrong, we should look at ourselves first rather than the other person. It's not to say that the other person is flawless. It's to say that we are all imperfect and we should be working on our own problems before we try to work on someone else's.
The acceptability of viewing porn is subjective, you either agree with it or you don't. There are arguments for both sides but what matters is how you feel. If you don't like it then he should either respect that, or you should be more tolerant, or you're simply not right for each other. Nobody is right or wrong here. Everyone is entitled to their own fantasies and entitled to masturbate unless it detracts from your joint sex life. Where it would go too far is in forming personal connections with any of the models, such as trying to meet them or date them or speaking to them in a manner which is being unfaithful. I would also argue that subscribing to their content is a bit far, but that's not infidelity as such.
Magnolia21 · 18-21, F
Every relationship needs to have boundaries, what is acceptable and not acceptable. For me, if my future bf watched porn sometimes, more power to him. Subscribing to an OF and being a simp? That's off limits for me.
AlteredMind · 26-30, M
I watch porn my girlfriend knew this going into the relationship. Do I consider it cheating? No, not really. My girlfriend is the only woman who I will share a bed with, she is the only woman that I love in a romantic sense and she is the only person who I have sex with. I don't know the women in pornos, I don't spend time with them and they don't mean anything to me other than to put ideas in my head or to have a quick release.

Personally I think people have a problem with their partner watching porn are deeply insecure and if my girlfriend decided to watch porn I wouldn't give a shit, the same way I don't care when she says an actor is hot or goes to Ann Summers parties.
Sadmum09 · 26-30, F
@AlteredMind I’m not saying watching porn is cheating. But when your partner starts to get less intimate with you and you found out he’s paying to watch women masturbate while he jerks off. NOW THATS CHEATING. He’s choosing to nut over a woman on camera than share the bed with the woman he is with. Hope you get my point
Bang5luts · M
Hormones and lack of self discipline. 😔 there are too many of those shallow distractions in this world, and the people paid very well to protect our families and our society are too busy trying to make their political opponents look bad, instead of do the job they were actually hired to do.
Bang5luts · M
@Carissimi yes that definitely adds to the pie, but is not the biggest slice. How about our government collects large amounts of our pay checks for educating our children.. why shouldn't they be held responsible when they are getting paid to do a job they aren't doing obviously
Carissimi · 61-69, F
No. It is the pie. Cheating on your partner is solely on the cheater. You have some weird ideas about this. @Bang5luts
Bang5luts · M
You are correct @Carissimi.
Carissimi · 61-69, F
I agree. If a man does this while still saying he loves you, he does not love you at all. He’s just used to having you around, but has little respect for you, and you certainly are not enough for him. Dump him!
Hatt94 · 51-55, M
If you think it is cheating, then you need to talk to your man.
Some women dont mind their men looking at porn. They know men are visual creatures.
I know a couple ladies that really enjoy their baths. Light candles, dim the lights, glass of wine... just because they are not looking at porn, i can bet they are thinking about something that excites them.
Sadmum09 · 26-30, F
@Hatt94 I reallt think its normal for every man or woman who watch porn. some even enjoy it. some get ideas to spice up their sex life. Porn is free too, but having subscription on cam to cam is quiet different. whyd you have to pay to watch a girl masturbate? or why you need photos of other girls who are butt naked and jerk off on it.
Hatt94 · 51-55, M
@Sadmum09 no, i wouldnt pay for a subscription.
I enjoy nudity. So i like to see butt naked women. If i jerk off, well good for me. I'm not hurting anyone.
I dont think of it as cheating though.
SizEmUp · 26-30, M
Way open ended. Depends on the boundaries and expectations set in the individual relationship. Some people are very conservative and others have broader boundaries. As a general rule do I think looking at casual photos like xhamster or something is cheating, no I dont but if you have that relationship and understanding where it is, then it is for you but like most things its not one thing for all people.
Reflection2 · 36-40, M
Its cheating. simple as that
Sadmum09 · 26-30, F
@Reflection2 he denies it he said its not cheating. well he's a cheater
Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M
It's probably normal male behavior. Human males are designed to have multiple female sex partners as are human females,if not more so. That's why human females can have multiple orgasms.
Quimliqer · 61-69, MVIP
Fairly broad statement (you are all disgusting.) Perhaps your fellow is doing this, but please don’t include every male!
Teirdalin · 26-30
Pretty much yes. If it was just generic porn or whatever that's one thing, but going for specific people is pretty iffy.
StevetheSleeve · 31-35, M
Paying cam girls is different than watching porn. Technically cheating or not, can see why you’d be pissed.
Morrowind · 26-30, M
You’re saying porn is cheating?
Sadmum09 · 26-30, F
@Morrowind what im saying is if you have a wife thats goon in bed why go watch some photos and videos to jerk off???
QCDog2659 · 61-69, M
@Sadmum09 Is the woman as good in bed as she thinks herself to be? Is she providing for her man's needs at the quantity and quality that he needs or desires?

While I did not partake in porn during my marriage, the above questions may provide answers to why some men need porn.
Carissimi · 61-69, F
So if your wife is not good in bed (what does that even mean?) you can cheat on her? Why don’t you divorce your wife because you certainly don’t love and respect her. @QCDog2659
BigBulge · 41-45, M
I hope every man you consider dating gets to read what you wrote.
Have always been content with who I've been with
Anon066 · 31-35, M
Ya fuck dudes like that
I can't remember the last time I answered "no" to a question that began w/"is it considered cheating..?"
Catzgano · 26-30, F
Yes I agree
iamonfire696 · 36-40, F
The thing about porn is that it’s so widely accepted by society now but it doesn’t mean it’s right. Porn is addictive and isn’t healthy.

Especially if he’s replacing intimacy with you for watching porn and getting off on his own.

That’s something you need to talk to him about.
Sadmum09 · 26-30, F
@iamonfire696 exactly my point
iamonfire696 · 36-40, F
@Sadmum09 I am sorry he’s doing that to you. You don’t deserve it.
DDonde · 31-35, M
Talk it out with him.
Sadmum09 · 26-30, F
@DDonde I don’t feel like it. I’d rather leave
MethDozer · M
Camming is definately cheating imho
It is disgusting. It definitely is cheating definitely if they dont play attention to u

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