I Live In a Sexless Marriage

In my personal opinion, it seems that by the time the wife realizes that intimacy has been long ignored over the years it turns into a drought. When hungry and consumed by desire the man begins to look for an emotional connection and darwinian urge and moves on to someone else. Divorce usually follows.

The drought years are the hardest. They are years lost because you choose to stay in fear and not divorce because of what you have to lose. Its especially true for men in general who usually lose the most. - IE Lost house, lost kids, child support, alimony, half your income. Its why men secretly cheat in marriage.

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PoetryNEmotion · F

I think it is fear that causes one to stay unhappily. It was in my case. And where kids are involved, it is even trickier. We want them to have two parents under the same roof even when we cannot stand one another. I think you are mistaken when you say that is why men cheat. I lost more financially than he ever did. These days many women contribute to the household by working. It is just assumed women are responsible for the kids while their spouses work. I made more and I worked more. And, as for giving up sex and/or intimacy, it takes a toll on you. It is a form of abuse to withhold affection. That is the truth.