I Live In a Sexless Marriage

Its a human condition. When I say men, usually , its because they suffer the most. That is based on statistics that most men are the primary breadwinner. They are also usually the one's that have a retirement package. Couple that with the fact that most courts are gender biased when it comes to divorce. I say biased because abuse usually occurs on both sides of the genders in relationships. If a cop comes to the house he discriminates based off a man's size and not that human beings can throw things punch each other etc regardless of gender. So a woman will plead in court domestic abuse by the man. The man will then lose his kids and get burdened with child support while having his children taken away from him. In extreme cases the woman files a protection order against the man and he loses all of his rights to even see his own children. The truth of the matter is that if courts took into account "emotional abuse" by women as much as they did physical abuse women would lose access to their kids and/or child support orders as bad as men get it. Its interesting because after the divorce 63% of women are cited for domestic abuse against the kids as opposed to men 37%. Divorce sucks, but generally, if your a man the judge screws you. The statistics for male suicide after a divorce are extremely high. I tried to kill myself too after losing my kids and everything else. Took a ton of sleeping pills and somehow God decided not to let me do it. Friends and coworkers then came in and saved me. It was't until 2 months after her filing did I finally see my children again.

This is just my opinion on what I know and your mileage may vary.

@AmazingPoet: I'm sorry that you had to go through all that. People get quite vicious during divorces. I'm never quite sure how the courts allow it.

@Laifu1: Not only vicious they use their anger to use the kids as pawns between two people that love them. Thats the biggest tragedy. Then follow it by the courts only care about someone paying child support and maximizing the amount. They do NOT follow what is best for the kids which is 50/50 between the two people that brought them into this world. I have 11%/89% custody of the year. Thats why kids go and get guns and shoot people up because the legal system fails them. They lose their role models that love them.

Sorry any parent that uses a protection order to remove someone who loves them is a really really shitty person in my book. Both parents father and mother should be a part of a childs life. Yet, there are so many shitty people that do that.

@AmazingPoet: I understand. My husband would never give me a divorce and let me have the kids. Not because he wants them. Just because he lost his older kids to their mother. It was never about the kids, it was a personal insult to his manhood. He could care less about the kids.

thats why I stay.

@darktippedrose: You could fight this. And win. If you wanted to.