I Live In a Sexless Marriage

In my personal opinion, it seems that by the time the wife realizes that intimacy has been long ignored over the years it turns into a drought. When hungry and consumed by desire the man begins to look for an emotional connection and darwinian urge and moves on to someone else. Divorce usually follows.

The drought years are the hardest. They are years lost because you choose to stay in fear and not divorce because of what you have to lose. Its especially true for men in general who usually lose the most. - IE Lost house, lost kids, child support, alimony, half your income. Its why men secretly cheat in marriage.

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BlueRaine · 51-55, F

Good luck. You made it.

ShadowSteel · M

Divorce, recovery and all of that is like going to war and coming back. It is by far the hardest thing I have EVER faced in my whole life. Yes my life is much better, but I deserve a medal for survival. God, Church, DivorceCare groups and massive support from friends and family are what kept me from opting out of life. Try being a father everyday of your kids lives then becoming a every other weekend visitor.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@AmazingPoet: Yet you still have their hearts. When one is in the midst of chaos, one learns to adapt even to their own detriment. Depression, addictions, cheating and other conditions and vices may occur in desperate attempts to survive in a war zone. Are you receiving counseling or are you in a support group? You have a lot of anger and frustration and stress and that isn't good for you. I hope you vent to people whom you trust.

BlueRaine · 51-55, F

@AmazingPoet: I envy you, I really do. People can learn from what you have been through and survived.