I Live In a Sexless Marriage

In my personal opinion, it seems that by the time the wife realizes that intimacy has been long ignored over the years it turns into a drought. When hungry and consumed by desire the man begins to look for an emotional connection and darwinian urge and moves on to someone else. Divorce usually follows.

The drought years are the hardest. They are years lost because you choose to stay in fear and not divorce because of what you have to lose. Its especially true for men in general who usually lose the most. - IE Lost house, lost kids, child support, alimony, half your income. Its why men secretly cheat in marriage.

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LunarOrbit · 56-60, M

In that boat. But havn't cheated

ShadowSteel · M

Keep wandering the desert my friend. One of two things will happen , you will get older and lose that urge and desire or Two, you will succumb to hunger and cheat.

Not all of us can be a Jesus in the desert being persecuted and survive it.

ShadowSteel · M

One more interesting note is I heard this story. It was about this woman who rejected her husband over the years. As years past, he lose the desire and became sexually dysfunctional to her because of rejection. His body knew it was never going to happen and quit working. Finally , she begin to wonder why they weren't have sex and became sexually frustrated and couldn't figure out why. By then he could care less and she could go f' herself.

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

@AmazingPoet: yes. the same with me. I've been rejected so many times my body no longer recognizes him as a sexual option. they have literally trained your body that way. its a trained response.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@darktippedrose: This is so freaking sad, girl. He has made you deny yourself love.

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

how can I deny myself love with him when he has told me multiple times that he is repulsed by my skin? he's recoiled from me to jsut touch his hand?

PoetryNEmotion · F

@darktippedrose: This is much deeper than I know. You need to find someone to discuss this with because it will only make you sink deeper. I hope you have someone to talk to, girl.

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

I'm on two different sexless marriage forums. I have gone to a therapist thats told me that my husband has anti-social personality disorder. I couldn't go any longer because of the cost of cabs

PoetryNEmotion · F

@darktippedrose: Well, you need support in some way. I hope you get some and then decide what you shall do for your life.

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

i highly doubt that I'll be getting any support any time soon. but thats life.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@darktippedrose: Life should be good for you. Even better than good. You are young still. And you deserve happiness. How will you live? There has to be another way. Can you join a support group locally? Do you have friends who listen to you? Others in the same boat so as to speak?

darktippedrose · 36-40, F

I don't get out much. which is why I talk on here. its one of the few places where I can be myself.