Why are there soo many single mothers in America, who gives these men permission to walk out when they've had enough fun with a woman?

I lived in the U.S for two years when i was 5 years and i was brought back here (africa). When i was in America i saw neighbors were so suspicious of each other. One would complain if the other's dog crossed to their porch yet sometimes they greet each other (for formality i guess). Everyone minded their own business and if you had a problem you either find an inhouse family member to help because your problems can never be shared with neighbors or extended relatives. We'll over here i can cross a stranger's compound without any suspicion. From what i see right now, single motherhood is like a lifestyle in America and people treat it like its normal. What happened? Is it the culture of self-centeredness that has made men to take women's time, have kids then divorce them after fulfilling their needs. How comes women sacrifice to give men their time and have kids with them only for the men to walk out after a couple of kids. Women feed the ego of men and afterwards the men go for better deals elsewhere. Divorces happen everywhere in the world i know but its not normal if 3 out of 5 households are single mothers. This is what happens to a society that thinks humanity is leisure. I dont understand how kids grow up wounded by the mistakes of selfish parents. FIY, i wanted to vent, don post hate messages, just give your opinion if you feel like you want to contribute. I am not married so maybe i dont understand all that happens in a marriage. But im in a capable position to see whats wrong and give my opinion

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

Great question. I read a book about the subject and the author believes that the root cause of this is a combination of men who are narcissistic sociopaths manipulating gullible women to form a relationship and then abandoning them when the women get pregnant and moving on to their next woman, thus spreading their genes and creating a higher rate of sociopaths every generation. Sometimes the women don't even know the man's real name because they are great at creating a false identity to fool them so they can't be tracked down later for child support, and also skillful at moving around from place to place. Like one talk host said, if a woman believe she's old enough to get into a relationship with a man she should be wise enough to find out who he really is before getting into a situation where she's going to get pregnant. Another reason for this problem is the government financing the single women's medical costs in regard to the pregnancy, food stamps, substidized housing, welfare etc. Teen girls living in a single-mother household will often brag about plans on getting pregnant and getting their own apartment (just to get away from their mothers), this came from a man I know who was teaching math in an inner-city school with the highest drop-out rate in the Oklahoma City area.

silentkev · 31-35, M

@cherokeepatti: I am truly shocked by that. She qualifies to be called stupid. But wait and see because it will come around and blow right infront of her face, she must face the music and pay one time

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@silentkev: I don't think she will ever pay enough for what she's done to her children and her aging grandparents...they should be enjoying their last decade or two of life instead of being saddled with her responsibilities.